By: Sandy Dean: Once you’ve made the big decision to try to conceive (and to do so in a deliberate way in order to get a certain gender) the next decision you’ll often try to make is which day is “the day” that you’re going to attempt to get pregnant.
Many people place a lot of importance on choosing this day. And many focus on things other than on the science behind it. They want the day to have some significance. Maybe they will look for a day where the sun is shining outside and when the weather is particularly beautiful. Maybe they will wait for a special occasion like an anniversary. Perhaps they will wait until astrology or numerology tells them that it’s the perfect time to bring a baby into the world. Or, they think that it is a mind blowing love making experience that is the perfect day to become pregnant.
All of these thoughts are nice. And I agree that conceiving a child is a very special time. You hope that by choosing the right day at the perfect time, you increase your chances of having everything fall into place. You’re hoping for the successful conception, a healthy pregnancy, and a happy family.
And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s normal to want that. But, when it comes right down to it. Conception is about science. And getting the gender of your choice is especially about science. If your egg is ready to be fertilized and your partner’s sperm successfully fertilizes it, then that will be the day of your pregnancy regardless of whether it’s raining outside, whether its your anniversary, whether it’s a full moon, or whether or not the sex was all that great.
Likewise, you could have the most perfect day imaginable and have mind blowing sex, but if you are not ovulating or the sperm does not make it to the egg, a pregnancy is not going to occur.
If you truly want to be able to choose your baby’s gender and get pregnant quickly, then you need to redefine “the perfect day.” In terms of the science behind things, the perfect day is actually when you are at the point in your ovulation cycle that is optimal for the gender that you want, when your PH is the optimal level for the gender that you want, and when your partner or spouse is available to make this happen.
I got pregnant with my son on a very imperfect week because I had worked about 20 hours worth of overtime. I was so tired that frankly, the sex wasn’t all that wonderful. But I knew that the timing was right and I had been very careful about checking my PH. It was scientifically perfect, however, because I knew that all of the variables were there.
Want to know how to put all of the pieces of the puzzle together at precisely the right time? I’ve put together a couple of websites to help. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com
Can A Man Make His Sperm Conceive A Boy Or Girl Baby? Can He Influence Whether He’s Producing Girl Or Boy Sperm?
By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from women who are either with a man who has had many children of one gender or the woman is in that same situation herself. For example, the woman may have conceived all daughters or she has recently married a man with all sons. Often, the couple are trying to reverse that trend and get a baby of a new gender. And they are often wondering if the man has any control over which sperm chromosomes he will produce during this process.
I heard from a woman who said: “I had three boys with my previous husband. I am getting married to a man who also has two boys. Needless to say, I want a girl baby with my new husband. I have been very clear about this and my husband is telling me that he can control his sperm. I told him that this is crazy talk but he says that he can control what happens with his thinking and with his diet. Can men control whether they are producing boy and girl sperm? He is telling me that he will make sure that I get a girl baby this time and I know that he wants to please me. But is this a promise that he can even make? Is this even possible?”
I wish that I could tell you that this was true. But I don’t believe that it is. I will tell you why in the following article.
There Is Overwhelming Evidence That Men Have Equal Amounts Of Both Girl And Boy Producing Sperm Regardless Of The Gender They Have Previously Produced:
There have been studies where men who have produced several of one gender have been tested to determine their sperm production ratio. Some expected to find that men who had only produced boys had more Y (boy producing) than X (girl producing) sperm. And, it would also be expected that fathers of nothing but daughters would have much higher amounts of X sperm.
But, this was not the case. Instead, all of the men showed equal amounts of each type of sperm chromosome regardless of whether they had boys or girls. I know that this is suprising to many, but this has been shown more than once. So if we accept that the man in question very likely had equal amounts of X and Y sperm, he already had an equal chance of getting a girl baby, unless the woman or mother to be was influencing the outcome which I will discuss a little later.
Although There Are Things That Men Can Do To Increase Their Sperm Count, They Can’t Isolate The Sperm That They Are Increasing:
If you’ve spent any amount of time researching becoming pregnant, you’ve probably already read about how men can increase their sperm count to have a better chance of conceiving quickly. But, although they can increase their sperm, they are also increasing both X and Y chromosome relatively equally. And they aren’t increasing only the X’s and not the Y’s or vice versa.
Consider Looking At How The Mother To Be Might Be Contributing To Baby Gender:
Since the father to be’s sperm ratio appears to be set, it makes sense to look at how the woman or the mother to be is contributing. It’s a common assumption that she doesn’t contribute at all, but I highly disagree with this.
Her timing, vaginal PH, and the sexual positions that she uses can all make one gender more likely than another. For example, some things can discourage the Y sperm which means that a girl baby is more likely. Having a successful conception before ovulation, having an acidic vaginal PH, and using deep penetration without female orgasm would all help to weed out the Y sperm to increase the odds of getting a boy baby.
So if you are a female who is conceiving one gender over and over again, I would take a close look at your vaginal PH as well as your ovulation time as it relates to when you are having conception intercourse.
But to answer the question posed, while it’s reassuring to think that a man can think powerful thoughts or change his diet to get the gender of his choice, it’s not likely to happen because his ratio is going to be roughly 50 / 50 no matter what. While there are things that he can do to increase his sperm count, these things will increase both X and Y sperm in equal ratios and this doesn’t change no matter what he does or thinks. I wish it were different but science has shown that it isn’t.
The good news is that the woman often is able to control some variables as far as she is concerned. So it makes sense to turn your attention there.
If this is still a bit confusing to you or you’re wondering where to start to influence your baby’s gender, I’ve put together a couple of web sites that breaks this down into small steps. If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/
If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/
By: Sandy Dean: Wives who want boy babies are sometimes looking for methods that they can use to give those boy-producing sperm (or Y’s) an advantage. Many know (or have read) the boy-producing sperm are weaker and more vulnerable than the X’s or girl-producing sperm. So an obvious question is what you can do to strengthen them.
Someone might ask: “what can I do to make the boy or Y sperm stronger? I’ve read that although the Y’s are faster, they are also weaker. I really want a boy baby. So what can I do to make them both strong and fast?”
Having Healthy, High Quality, Strong Sperm: Well, the fast part (having fast sperm) is already covered. As for strength, there are things that men can do to make their sperm quality high so that their sperm is as “strong” as possible. These things include: maintaining a healthy diet and weight; not smoking or drinking; cutting back on caffeine; lowering stress; getting enough sleep; checking the side effects of any medications; and limiting too tight underwear or time in saunas and hot tubs.
That said, ensuring healthy sperm means that both the X’s and the Y’s are going to be strong and healthy. There is no way to isolate one sperm over another. Anything that affects the Y’s is also going to affect the X’s.
Other Possibilities: The above might sound like bad news. But know that there are things that you can do to help the odds of the Y’s and to decrease the odds of the X’s. And most of it involves the mom-to-be rather than the dad. For example, the woman who wants a boy baby can have sex to conceive after ovulation. Why? Because we already know that the Y sperm are weak and not living as long, so just having them sitting there prior to the egg’s release is not the optimal thing to do. It’s better to know that the egg is ready (meaning ovulation has occurred) and to release the sperm only then.
Another thing that can be done is to make sure that the vaginal PH is alkaline. If it is acidic, that’s detrimental to the already-weak Y sperm. Also, use deep penetration to give them less space to travel. These methods do, in a sense, strengthen the Y’s because it gives them the best chance for success.
Of course, you want to encourage your husband to have a healthy lifestyle and body to ensure a high sperm count and quality sperm. But this means that both X and Y are healthy. There is no way to isolate one over the other. So it makes sense to do other things with the woman (where you can isolate some variables) in order to influence baby gender.
If you’d like instructions of what to do to get each baby gender and when, I’ve tried to make it easy to understand. I’ve put together a few websites which hopefully explain it pretty clearly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com
By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from women who want to know that their boyfriend or husband needs to do to help them conceive a boy or girl baby. Occasionally, I hear from the men themselves who are trying to do everything in their power to help the woman they love get the baby gender of her choice. The truth is, there is plenty that a man can do to help conceive a boy or girl baby. But sometimes, his role is more of a supporting one, which might come as a surprise to you.
Here are a few examples. Many people ask me what the man should be eating to achieve a certain sperm PH. Or they want to know if he should restrict himself in terms of food, exercise, or the clothing that he wears. The truth is, the PH of his sperm does not affect baby gender in the way that a woman’s PH does. Plus, men have a 50 / 50 ratio of Y to X sperm (boy and girl producing.) And this is typically true no matter what his family history is (in terms of baby gender) and no matter what makes up his diet.
There have been studies which show that even men who have had only boys or only girls still have these same ratios. I know that men can be desperate to help and are more than willing to tweak their diet or their lifestyle to help their partner get the gender that she wants. But this just isn’t necessary as it is vaginal PH (rather than sperm PH) that really matters. With that said, there is definitely a part that a man can play, which I’ll discuss below.
Be Willing To Wait Until The Time Is Exactly Right To Have Sex: I know that it is very exciting when you are trying to conceive. When your wife or girlfriend gives you the green light that it’s time to make a baby, then it’s normal to want to get right to work and to let the fun begin. However, there is often a very good reason to wait. When you are trying to chose your baby’s gender, you often have a much smaller conception window than you would if you didn’t care about baby gender. Because if gender doesn’t matter, you can have sex anytime in the larger fertility window. But for a girl baby, you want to have sex only before ovulation. And for a boy, you want to only have sex after it. So there will only be a few ideal days for conception. Some days will have to be passed up. Understand this and plan accordingly.
Know That You’ll Need To Invest In Some Tools And Do Some Detective Work: The biggest mistake that I see people make when they are trying to chose their baby’s gender at home is that they will assume that they know when they are ovulating without actually testing themselves. Or, they hope that they have the right PH without really knowing for sure. Guessing is the worst thing that you can do. Make sure your girlfriend or wife has a good ovulation predictor and PH tester and, more than that, make sure she uses it regularly and uses the applicable charts for both.
Understand That The Act Of Sex Many Not Be As Spontaneous As Usual: I know that it’s very romantic and exciting to think that when you have sex, you might be creating a baby. But it’s important that you decide on the sexual position that you will use ahead of time. When you are not trying to conceive, being spontaneous with the timing of sex and the positions that you use is fine. But when you are trying to conceive, your sexual positions can matter a great deal. For a girl, you want to use shallow penetration. And for a boy, you need deep penetration. What positions that accomplish these things vary from couple to couple.
I know this might sound staged and planned (which isn’t as much fun,) but there’s a reason for this. Deep penetration helps the weaker boy producing sperm with the shorter shelf life. And shallow penetration is better for producing girl babies because it discourages those short lived Y’s (which contain boy producing sperm.)
I know that I’ve given you a lot to keep track of. If it helps, I’ve put together a few websites that contain cheat sheets to take a lot of the guess work out of choosing your baby’s gender. If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/
If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/
By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people, who, at least from a baby gender point of view, are looking for a little variety. They have already had one gender and they are looking for the opposite the next time that they are blessed with getting pregnant.
One example is the mom of a girl who now wants a boy. She might explain: “I am so in love with my baby girl. I have always wanted a daughter and I was so lucky to get that on my first try. But now I want for my husband to know the joy of having a son. And I know that in order to do right by all of our children, we can only afford to have two. So we really need to make the most of this next conception. I am hoping that since I’ve already had one girl, the universe will help me out and give me a son my second go round. I have been looking around at the park when I take my daughter to play and I’ve noticed that a lot of families have one of each. So is my second child more likely to be a boy since I’ve already had a girl? It seems to me that since the world has about equal amounts of each, the universe is pretty good at dividing them equally and I hope it does the same with my family.”
Well, it does work out that the genders are roughly even. And one reason that this happens is because the universe is designed so that a man’s sperm contains equal amounts of girl-producing sperm and boy-producing sperm. You get a boy if the Y or boy-producing sperm is the lucky winner to make it to the egg. And you get a girl if an X sperm chromosome makes it to the egg.
Since all things are theoretically equal, you would have a nearly equal chance of either gender as a result. But, think about this. Even in games of equal chance, the same outcome can happen over and over again. You can flip a coin and land on heads or tails twice in a row or even four times in a row. You can roll the same die twice in a row. It’s not always likely. But it certainly happens.
And unfortunately, the universe has no way to take into account which gender you’ve already gotten. You have the same equal amounts of X to Y each time you attempt to become pregnant.
This may sound a bit depressing when you’re trying to get a certain gender. It might make you feel a little better to know that although you can’t control the father – to – be’s sperm ratio, it is thought that you can control what happens to it once it enters the woman’s body – at least somewhat.
For example, women are who are acidic are said to have a better chance to have girl babies because the acidity is hostile to Y sperm. You can easily test your PH with PH strips. And you can try to change your PH if it’s not favorable to the gender of your choice through diet or douching. (The female having an orgasm also makes the PH less acidic But that is sometimes not enough to change the PH significantly.)
Also, the timing of intercourse and the positions used are said to influence your baby’s gender. So, while at first glance, you have the same chance to get either gender with your second pregnancy, you can try some things to increase the odds of getting the gender of your choice.
If you’d like step by step instructions of what to do for each gender and when, I’ve tried to make it easy to understand. I’ve put together a few websites that explain it more directly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com
By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people who are in the early stages of getting ready to conceive. It’s a great idea to take a little time and think about how your life is going to change, what kind of parent you hope to be, and what kind of child you think you might hope to get. And it is at this point that many people will begin to ponder the gender of their future baby. They will start to ask themselves if they would be a better parent to a boy or girl child, and, if they are being honest, which they would prefer. For whatever reason, people can feel a little hesitation to be completely frank with themselves about their preferences. There can be some guilt about wanting one gender over another.
Someone might say: “it’s strange but I’ve never been one of those people who has always known how many kids I want and what I’m going to name them. My best friend has always declared that she was going to have two kids – one boy and one girl and that they would be named Emily and Jacob. She has said that from the time she was in third grade and she has remained firm on this, never wavering. I have never been this way. Honestly, I didn’t think about babies until I fell in love and got married. And now I’m thinking about which gender would be a better fit for me. My inclination is to think that it would be easier for me (and probably for the baby too) to have the gender that is the same as me – a girl. I know a lot about growing up female, so I could help a daughter with these things. But another part of me thinks that I would be depriving the man I love of the same experience. And maybe having a boy baby would open up a whole new batch of experiences for me. Plus, it might stretch my parenting skills and give me another perspective of what it is like to be male. What should I do when I still don’t know? Does this mean that I won’t be a good parent?”
I think the fact that you are giving this so much careful thought can be a very good sign. Some people become parents without ever worrying about how good of a parent they are going to be. I think that it is more important to be clear that you will try your best to be a good, effective, and loving parent to whatever baby you get. I find that this is almost automatic for most people. They take one look at their baby and take that baby in their arms (no matter what the gender) and it is love at first sight. It is the unconditional love between a parent and child that lasts an entire lifetime.
Another consideration is that if you don’t do anything to try to influence the gender of your baby, you have a roughly equal chance of getting either one. Mother nature has done her best to ensure that the species will remain ongoing because there are enough males and females to keep it going. So, you can certainly leave this to chance and trust that the universe is going to give you the baby that you are meant to have and are uniquely qualified to parent.
But if you determine that you do have a preference as to gender, then you can try some simple and easy things at home that will stack the odds of getting the gender of your choice. I’ve put together a few websites that explain it step by step. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com
By: Sandy Dean: Often, I hear from women who are looking to become pregnant with their preferred gender. Much of the time, the pregnancy and the gender are things that the father-to-be leave up to his wife or significant other. However, occasionally, I do hear from some men who are either interested in how this works or who want to help the woman in their life to be successful with the gender of her choice.
Many of the mean rightly believe that their sperm is going to make a difference in both the baby-making and in the gender. It is necessary for both. But they are sometimes a little confused as to how it comes into play. For example, they sometimes believe that because they are active, young, and hopefully fertile, then they have a high sperm count. And they also believe that this high sperm count means that whatever child they conceive will be more like them than their wife (genetically, at least) and is also more likely to be a boy.
Here’s an example. A guy might say: “I don’t want to be presumptuous but I am pretty sure that I have a high sperm count. My brother has actually had his tested and his is high. I’m young and healthy. I’m very fit, tall, and muscular. My wife is healthy also, but she is very slight and small. I am hoping that this means that I have the advantage when it comes to our reproductive genes, which means that our child should take after me more. Also, I hope this means that we are more likely to have a boy. I love my wife and I’d like for our child to have her personality, but I’d like it to take after me a little more.”
Your offspring will have equal genetic material from both you and the offspring’s mother. A high sperm count does not really affect baby gender or the baby’s genetic makeup. Because a baby only needs one sperm and one egg. It can’t use any more than that. It is going to get one part from you and one part from its mother and nothing more. Unfortunately, the rest of that high sperm count will go to waste. It only takes one. The rest is just extra.
As far as baby gender, regardless of a man’s sperm count, age, or vitality, he has equal numbers of sperm chromosomes present. That means he has an equal amount of girl and boy producing sperm. So which one gets to the egg can either be chance if you don’t care which gender you get. Or it can be very deliberate if you come up with a regimen designed to get a boy or a girl. For example, couples who want a boy want to conceive later in the cycle, use deep penetration, and make sure that the female has an alkaline PH. All of these things encourage the boy sperm and discourage the girl sperm. If you wanted a girl, you would do the exact opposite.
I hope this article has been helpful. Rest assured that often, children get the very best parts of both parents. And most of the time, the parent finds this to be pretty perfect.
What to do when you want each gender can be somewhat confusing. To help you out, I’d put together some free step by step websites. If you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/ If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/
By: Sandy Dean: Many women today only know about douching because it was something that their mother or their grandmother did “back in the day.” Today, when we learn of one of our friends douching, it seems out of place and we wonder why.
Someone might say: “I was at my friend’s house the other day and I asked if I could use her bathroom. While I was in there, I noticed she had a douche on her counter. I made a funny comment about whether her grandmother was visiting or something. And she replied that the douche was there because she was ovulating. Why would someone douche while ovulating? I know that she and her husband were considering becoming pregnant, but doesn’t this defeat the purpose?”
It’s sometimes thought that douching discourages pregnancy, although many people debate this and will tell you that they became pregnant quite easily while douching. Still, the practice is not common today because gynecologists tell their patients that the vagina benefits from it’s natural flora so that no douching is required. However, some women douche when trying to become pregnant because they are trying to change their vaginal PH.
Specifically, a vaginal PH that is alkaline favors a boy baby, while an acidic one favors a girl. Women who douche during ovulation are typically trying to get one baby gender over another. And they will typically only do this with specific formulas based on their PH before ovulation. Most don’t plan to douche for the long term. They are doing it in order to help them get the gender of their choice only. And once they become pregnant, they will probably not continue with the practice.
Women of older generations were made that believe that their vagina was “dirty” or that it became so after their menstrual period. They were lead to believe that their husbands would not want to have sex with them if they did not clean themselves by douching. Women today thankfully don’t always grow up with these beliefs. Many in our generation only douche when we want to change PH (like when we are trying to influence baby gender) and we stop the practice afterward, realizing that there is nothing whatsoever that is wrong with our vaginal flora or our cleanliness.
And, you can change your vaginal PH via changing your diet for women who would rather not douche. There are always other options if you find this practice objectionable.
If you’d like more information about changing your vaginal PH to get the gender of your choice, I’ve set up a few free websites. If you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/ If you want a boy, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/