If I Want A Boy, Which Day Is My PH More Alkaline? Which Day Is It More Acidic If I Want A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean:  It’s understandable that women trying to become pregnant with a certain gender spend a lot of time trying to determine the optimal day on which to conceive.  This is important because if you get your timing wrong, you could accomplish the exact opposite of your goal.  A couple who wants a boy could get a girl and vice verse.

If you’ve been researching how to get the gender of your choice, then you know that your vaginal PH and your timing are two very important variables in this equation. So women in this situation naturally wonder when their vaginal environment is going to be optimal.  Women who want a girl will want to know when their vaginal environment is naturally acidic (which is ideal when you want a daughter) in the same way that women who want a boy baby want to know the ideal time that their environment is most alkaline (which is what you want to conceive a son.)

A question you might get in this situation is something like: “I’ve heard that early in your cycle, you’re more acidic, but are also more alkaline later on.  Is this true?  What days of the month are more likely to be acidic and which are more likely to be alkaline?  I want a boy, so I am looking for alkaline days.”

I’m not a doctor or specialist, but I can tell you what I have found from my research.  It’s thought that many women tend to be slightly acidic naturally because this state discourages infections.  If you have reoccurring yeast or bacterial infections, then you might trend toward being naturally alkaline.  However, one’s natural PH varies from woman to woman and you can easily test this.

Plus, there are many things that can change your PH.  One thing that potentially changes it every month is ovulation.  When a woman ovulates, her cervical mucus changes and becomes more thin.  This makes her vaginal environment slightly more alkaline and this is a more friendly environment to the sperm.  (An acidic environment is more hostile and that is why an acidic environment is said to encourage the much more hardy girl sperm.)

Other things that can change your vaginal PH include hormonal changes; (like ovulation, but also things like thyroid issues, medications, etc.) using perfumed feminine hygiene products; douching; and strict or harsh diets.  One common thing that can change the PH very dramatically are tampons and the chemicals that they contain.  Also, they hold fluids in the vagina, which can  cause additional PH fluctuations.  That is why some women tend to get infections after their menstrual period. (However, since most women ovulate well after their menstrual period and have been free of tampons for several days, this usually doesn’t come into play.)

If you, like most women tend to be slightly acidic right before ovulation, it makes sense that ovulation would help you become slightly alkaline.  This happens without your needing to do anything.  If the woman has an orgasm during sex, this helps to create an environment that is more alkaline still.  But whether you are at the optimal level isn’t going to be obvious unless you test yourself to be sure.

If you want a girl, you may have to test yourself and then experiment with douches or diet to get back to an ideal acidic state.  Or, you may start out so acidic that this adjustment isn’t needed.  If you want a boy, the act of ovulation might be enough to get you alkaline, but you can’t possibly know that unless you test yourself which leads me to my next point.

The best way to know your starting level and then to know where you are when you conceive is to test.  The PH strips are easy to find and inexpensive.  If you test yourself prior to trying to conceive and find that your level isn’t great for the gender you want, then you can always tweak it with your diet and with douching.  Even then, you still need to test right before you attempt to conceive to make sure the level is still right.

This is only applicable if you care deeply about the baby’s gender, of course.  If that’s the case, it makes sense to take the extra effort to make sure that everything is optimal.

If you’d like step by step instructions of how to do this and when, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it more directly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

If I Get A Positive Ovulation Test, When Should I Have Sex To Get A Boy Baby?

By: Sandy Dean: Many people realize that it’s very important to know precisely when you ovulate when you are trying to chose your baby’s gender at home. But sometimes, it isn’t so clear what should you do once you get that positive that tells you that ovulation is imminent.

I heard from someone who said: “I’ve been testing for ovulation since the last couple of days of my period. I wasn’t sure when I ovulated and I didn’t want to risk missing it. Finally, I got a positive reading this morning. I want a boy baby, so when should I start having sex? What does this positive reading really tell you? My husband is at work. Should I call him home? Or should I wait a little while to have sex?”

It’s very important that you read the instructions that come with your kit. Most will spell out exactly what a positive reading means. However, with this said, most of the time, a positive reading means that an LH surge has been detected. The test is telling you that there is the presence of luteinizing hormone and this generally happens right before you ovulate. Granted, there are certain medical conditions (like polycystic ovary syndrome or PCOS) that cause people to produce this hormone without ovulation being imminent. But if you have one of these conditions, you probably already know it and are under a doctor’s care. Most people agree that a positive reading means that you will be ovulating within 12 – 24 hours. And if you are testing every day and you tested negative yesterday, then it’s a pretty good guess that the luteinizing hormone was released very recently and that by tomorrow or very soon thereafter, ovulation would have already passed.

That means that by tomorrow or so, your egg should be ready to be fertilized. Now, boy producing or Y sperm are faster than girl producing or X sperm, but they also die off more quickly. That is why it is beneficial to wait have sex until after ovulation when you want a son. Since you know that this time period is either happening right now or will happen very soon, it makes sense to go ahead and have intercourse as soon as is feasible. Your egg can live for a day or two before it starts to deteriorate. So it is best to not wait too long. Since the boy sperm dies off relatively quickly as well, it makes sense to try to optimize the health of both the egg and the sperm. That’s why I think it makes sense to go ahead and begin having sex shortly after you get a positive reading.

With that said, I don’t think that you need to call your husband to rush home right that very minute. But having sex that evening is probably optimal. Many people ask if they should continue having sex after the initial positive reading. This can be a good idea when you are trying for a boy because you are maximizing each attempt. Since more sperm chromosomes are released this way, this gives you more speedy and healthy boy sperm that is fighting for the egg. However, this isn’t thought to be optimal if you want a girl baby. Most couples that are trying for a girl will have stopped having sex once they get the positive reading. Because a girl conception is more likely if you conceive early since the girl sperm have greater longevity. So for people that want a girl, that positive reading signals the time to stop intercourse and wait to see if you are pregnant.  If not, you simply try again the next month.  For couples wanting a boy thought, that positive reading is usually a green light to begin having sex relatively quickly.

I hope this article has helped you with your timing.  But know that your PH and the sexual positions you use are also important in choosing your baby’s gender.  If you’re confused about either one of these variables, I’ve put together a few websites that take a lot of the guess work out of this.

If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/

If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/

Should We Have Sex On Even Or Odd Days For A Boy Baby? What About For A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean: I often have people who ask me about the optimal time to have sexual intercourse in order to get pregnant with a certain gender. Many people realize that the day on which they conceive can be a very important factor in terms of whether they get a girl or boy baby. To that end, people sometimes ask or wonder if they should be having intercourse on even or odd days.

Someone might ask: “my husband and I would like to have a boy baby. My mother in law said that you should have sex on odd days for a boy baby and on even days for a girl. I told her that this is probably an old wives tale but she swears that this is true. How can this possibly be accurate?”

I honestly don’t believe it is accurate. I think that people probably gave this advice back in the old days because they thought that this advice would ensure that a couple was only having sex every other day and therefore ensuring a high sperm count during conception.

Understanding How Pregnancy Happens: One way to show you how this theory is a bit outlandish is to understand how a woman gets pregnant. A woman is fertile during a time period just before, after and during her ovulation period. This spans different time frames for different women, but it is only a few or a handful of days out of each month. If you are having sex on alternating days, then you are cutting into an already small window with no consideration given to when you can actually become pregnant.

Variables For Gender Selection: Now, let’s look at what might help you get a girl or boy baby. A man’s sperm has two different chromosomes that affect baby gender – Y (boy producing) and X (girl producing). These chromosomes have different characteristics. The X or girl producing live for longer and the Y or boy producing are faster.

That is why when you want a girl baby, you’re advised to have intercourse before ovulation. And you’re encouraged to wait until after this time frame when you want a boy. Notice that it doesn’t matter if either of these days are even or odd. As an example. Let’s say your menstrual period happened on the fifteen of the month. Now, let’s say you ovulate on the first day of the next month and you want a boy. Because having intercourse after ovulation is important for a boy baby, your optimal day to have sex is going to be the 2nd and after. The 3rd was also work. Notice that one day is even and one day is odd, but they are both optimal for a boy baby because they happen after ovulation.

To answer the original question though, the best day isn’t either or odd. It is the day before or after your ovulation day depending on which gender you want.  To take it even further than that, the best day is not only when your timing is right, but when your PH is right also.  PH and sexual positions matter too.  And none of these things have anything to do with odd and even days on the calendar.

If you’d like step by step instructions of how to combine all of these variables and when, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it more directly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

Can A Man Make His Sperm Conceive A Boy Or Girl Baby? Can He Influence Whether He’s Producing Girl Or Boy Sperm?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from women who are either with a man who has had many children of one gender or the woman is in that same situation herself.  For example, the woman may have conceived all daughters or she has recently married a man with all sons.  Often, the couple are trying to reverse that trend and get a baby of a new gender.  And they are often wondering if the man has any control over which sperm chromosomes he will produce during this process.

I heard from a woman who said: “I had three boys with my previous husband.  I am getting married to a man who also has two boys.  Needless to say, I want a girl baby with my new husband.  I have been very clear about this and my husband is telling me that he can control his sperm.  I told him that this is crazy talk but he says that he can control what happens with his thinking and with his diet.  Can men control whether they are producing boy and girl sperm?  He is telling me that he will make sure that I get a girl baby this time and I know that he wants to please me.  But is this a promise that he can even make?  Is this even possible?”

I wish that I could tell you that this was true.  But I don’t believe that it is.  I will tell you why in the following article.

There Is Overwhelming Evidence That Men Have Equal Amounts Of Both Girl And Boy Producing Sperm Regardless Of The Gender They Have Previously Produced:

There have been studies where men who have produced several of one gender have been tested to determine their sperm production ratio.  Some expected to find that men who had only produced boys had more Y (boy producing) than X (girl producing) sperm. And, it would also be expected that fathers of nothing but daughters would have much higher amounts of X sperm.

But, this was not the case.  Instead, all of the men showed equal amounts of each type of sperm chromosome regardless of whether they had boys or girls.  I know that this is suprising to many, but this has been shown more than once.   So if we accept that the man in question very likely had equal amounts of X and Y sperm, he already had an equal chance of getting a girl baby, unless the woman or mother to be was influencing the outcome which I will discuss a little later.

Although There Are Things That Men Can Do To Increase Their Sperm Count, They Can’t Isolate The Sperm That They Are Increasing:

If you’ve spent any amount of time researching becoming pregnant, you’ve probably already read about how men can increase their sperm count to have a better chance of conceiving quickly.  But, although they can increase their sperm, they are also increasing both X and Y chromosome relatively equally.  And they aren’t increasing only the X’s and not the Y’s or vice versa.

Consider Looking At How The Mother To Be Might Be Contributing To Baby Gender:

Since the father to be’s sperm ratio appears to be set, it makes sense to look at how the woman or the mother to be is contributing.  It’s a common assumption that she doesn’t contribute at all, but I highly disagree with this.

Her timing, vaginal PH, and the sexual positions that she uses can all make one gender more likely than another.  For example, some things  can discourage the Y sperm which means that a girl baby is more likely.  Having a successful conception before ovulation, having an acidic vaginal PH, and using deep penetration without female orgasm would all help to weed out the Y sperm to increase the odds of getting a boy baby.

So if you are a female who is conceiving one gender over and over again, I would take a close look at your vaginal PH as well as your ovulation time as it relates to when you are having conception intercourse.

But to answer the question posed, while it’s reassuring to think that a man can think powerful thoughts or change his diet to get the gender of his choice, it’s not likely to happen because his ratio is going to be roughly 50 / 50 no matter what.  While there are things that he can do to increase his sperm count, these things will increase both X and Y sperm in equal ratios and this doesn’t change no matter what he does or thinks.  I wish it were different but science has shown that it isn’t.

The good news is that the woman often is able to control some variables as far as she is concerned.  So it makes sense to turn your attention there.

If this is still a bit confusing to you or you’re wondering where to start to influence your baby’s gender, I’ve put together a couple of web sites that breaks this down into small steps.  If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/

If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/

Does It Make Sense To Continue To Have Sex After Ovulation Stops When Trying To Become Pregnant?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people who are trying to become pregnant as soon as possible. Because of this, they know that they may have to be more deliberate about the timing of their love making. Sure, you can become pregnant by just having sex whenever you feel like it and letting nature take its course, but this might take longer than if you tested for ovulation and then had sex on or around that time in a very deliberate way.

Many people aren’t sure how far to take this though. They will test for ovulation, get a positive, and then be unsure as to when or if they should stop having sex in an attempt to conceive. So, I might hear a comment like: “I understand why people chose to abstain before ovulation happens. They are trying to make sure that their sperm count is high. But what about after ovulation? Does it make sense to keep having sex a couple of days after you get the positive reading? Because at that point, ovulation would have stopped and you are not likely to become pregnant.”

This Depends Upon If There Is A Gender You’d Prefer: My answer to this question really depends upon if you care about your baby’s gender and, if so, which gender you prefer. Here’s why. Having sex prior to ovulation gives you a better chance to conceive a girl baby because the early timing isn’t friendly to the short-lived, boy-producing sperm. By conceiving this early, you are hoping that many of the boy sperm will no longer be present by the time that the fertilization takes place. However, if you are in the situation where are definitely trying for a girl baby, then it is best to stop having sex once you get the positive ovulation reading.

The reason for this is that having sex after ovulation favors a boy baby for the reasons that I described above. If the boy sperm are present at the time of conception (and they are more likely to be if you have sex after ovulation) then they have a slight advantage because they are faster to the egg. So, if you want a boy, your best bet is to wait to get that positive ovulation reading and then go ahead and have sex. From a gender standpoint, continuing to have sex after ovulation if you want a boy isn’t going to hurt your goal. But if you want a girl, this isn’t something that you’d want to do.

Concerns About The Health Of The Sperm After Ovulation: Now, some people are of the mind set that you should stop having sex a couple of days after ovulation because you are increasing your chances of having weak sperm fertilize your egg and this increases the chances of having a miscarriage or a troubled pregnancy. There are lots of differences of opinion about this. But if this is something that worries or concerns you, then there is no harm is stopping intercourse shortly after ovulation and then resuming it well afterwards, knowing that, since you have already ovulated, you are very unlikely to become pregnant until the next month anyway.

It really just depends upon your comfort level and on the baby gender that you want. If you’re attempting to get a girl baby, it would go against your goal to continue to have sex. This timing would be more favorable to a boy baby, but if you’re worried about fertilizing her egg with deteriorating sperm, then it might make sense to relax your conception attempts until you are sure ovulation is more than over.

Plus, it’s not just timing that is important.  If you truly want a specific gender, you’ll also want to consider your diet and PH and the sexual positions used.  If you’d like more specific information on how all of this fits together, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it step by step. If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com If you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com

If My Period Changes Dates From Month To Month Does This Mean I Can’t Become Pregnant With The Gender Of My Choice

By: Sandy Dean:  Most women who are either trying to become pregnant or trying to avoid a pregnancy realize that the timing of their period becomes very important.  Because the menstrual period is at least indicative that ovulation has already occurred for the month – so you can plan accordingly.  After all, in the vast majority of the cases, a period occurs because no pregnancy has taken place for that month.  And your ovulation and menstrual cycle start all over again.  (I say “the vast majority” of the cases because some women actually have continued to have periods even while they were pregnant.  It is relatively rare.  But it does happen.  So you can’t say with one hundred percent certainty that you are not pregnant once you get your period, but for most women, this is the case.)

Whether a woman is trying to avoid or achieve pregnancy, she will often use her period to gauge when she might need to avoid or attempt sex (and therefore a pregnancy.)  But what happens when your period is hard to gauge?  What if you are trying to become pregnant and your period happens at various times throughout the month?  For example, someone might ask: “are you even fertile if you have periods at different times from month to month and when the date is always changing?  I want to become pregnant, but last month, my period came on the 20th and this month it wasn’t until the 28th.  So I have no idea when I can become pregnant.  This would be hard enough if I didn’t care about gender.  But I do.  I want a girl and I have heard people say that this is going to be even harder to achieve? Can you become pregnant when you are always having your period on different dates? Can you get the gender that you want?”

The Timing Can Work If You Are Careful: The answer is yes on both counts, and I will explain why.  You don’t need periods to happen in the same way every single time to become pregnant.  Many women have cycles that vary from month to month.  And your menstrual cycle (your period) and your fertility cycle (where you ovulate) are two different things.  Ovulation occurs first when the egg is ready to be fertilized.  If there is no sperm present to fertilize the egg and no pregnancy occurs, then your period starts.  These two parts of your cycle can both vary as to when they occur.  Certain factors can delay or affect them.  And some women just have cycles that vary naturally.

However, this doesn’t mean that both processes aren’t happening normally even if their timing might be a little different.  Now, determining when they might occur can be very important when you are trying to become pregnant.  Because you want to have sex AROUND the time of ovulation.  The egg only lives for a short while.  So if you have sex too early before the egg is released then you won’t be able to become pregnant.  If you wait too late after the egg has been released, then the egg won’t be viable anymore.  That’s why timing is so important.

Knowing EXACTLY When The Timeframe Is Optimal: The good news is that you don’t have to guess.  Ovulation predictor kits mean that you can know when this has occurred so that you can have sex at the appropriate time (and when pregnancy and conception are most likely to occur.)  In terms of baby gender, this is a bit more tricky.  Because the timing needs more precision in this case.  For a boy, you want to have sex after ovulation.  This isn’t that difficult because no matter when your period occurs, the ovulation kit can tell you exactly when you are about to ovulate.  You know ovulation is very close so if you have sex a short time later, then you are a little more likely to get a boy.  A girl conception is a bit harder because by the time you get a positive reading in most kits, you’re at the timing for a boy.  That’s why the saliva predictor (as opposed to the urine) kits are better for couples who want a girl.  They are more sensitive and give you a more generous lead time, which is more conducive to a girl baby.

But no, having your period at different times of the month doesn’t mean that you can’t become pregnant.  You likely can, at least in my opinion.  You may just have to monitor with a kit, but this is very easy to do.  And if you want a certain gender, you’ll have to monitor a little more closely and use other methods.

Now, timing isn’t the only variable that matters.  If you’re trying to control your baby’s gender, timing is very important, but you also need to consider PH and the sexual positions used.  I have set up free websites to explain each of these variables in ways that I hope are easy to understand.  I’ve put together a couple of cheat sheets to try to make it easy. If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com

How To Tell If Your Husband Can Only Have Boys. Or Girls. Is This Possible?

By: Sandy Dean:  I sometimes hear from folks who are getting ready to marry a man (or who have already married him) and are trying to gauge his ability to get the gender that is desired when it comes time to conceive a baby.  Sometimes, a man has already fathered children and people tend to think that he will get the same gender that he has already produced.  For example, if he is the father of boys then people may assume that he is likely to have another boy and may not be able to have girls.

Other times, this will be the man’s first baby and the mother-to-be wants to ensure that he can provide the gender that she wants. So she might say: “my husband and I have been married for about fourteen months.  We have been trying pretty much that whole time to become pregnant.  We have not succeeded, but I am trying not to worry. My  mother said that she doesn’t think my husband will be able to have a boy because he looks more effeminate than masculine and he has long fingers.  She says that men who look like this do not produce boys. I am not sure if this is true.  My husband has brothers, so I think that boys might run in his family.  And I’m not sure that you can tell if a man can father a certain gender by the looks of him.  One of my friends says you can tell by looking at his sperm.  Is this true?  Is there any way to tell what gender a man will father by looking at or examining him?”

Despite what a man (or his sperm) may look like, men have both X and Y sperm chromosomes (which produce both boys and girls) and they have equal numbers of each.  This means that they can father both genders and have an equal amount of chances to do so.  There has been studies of men who have had all boys and all girls and this testing showed that even in these circumstances, the fathers still had both X and Y sperm chromosomes – which means that they could have produced either gender.

A man’s sperm chromosomes have nothing to do whatsoever with his personal appearance or the appearance of anything else that comes out of his body. It has to do with the sperm chromosomes inside of his body.  And luckily, nature provides him with equal amounts of what he needs to father either a girl or a boy.

I know that you may be thinking: “but what about those men who have five sons?  Or seven daughters?”  I would suspect this has to do with the mother of those daughters or sons.  Why?  Since a man has both X and Y sperm chromosomes, the other part of the baby-making equation is the woman.  Women who are acidic have a better chance of getting girls and women who are alkaline have a better chance of getting boys. (This has to do with vaginal PH.) It could be that those men having daughters were married an acidic wife. And the sons in question might have an alkaline mother.

Another thing that contributes to baby gender is sexual position and timing.  Perhaps the couple used the same sexual position over and over again resulting in the same gender.  Perhaps they always conceived after or before ovulation each and every time.  There are many possibilities.

But you certainly can’t evaluate these possibilities by looking at a man.  And you can’t really “tell” what gender he will produce at all.  Because all men technically have the capability of making both.  If you want one over the other, your best bet is to control what you can – which is the mother-to-be’s PH, the sexual positions used, and the timing.

Incidentally, if a man has had a certain gender before, it’s a good sign that he’s fertile.  But you start over every time (when you’re taking about odds.)  Having girls previously doesn’t mean that you will have girls this time.  You’re dealing with the same X / Y chromosomes which gives you an equal chance of either gender, unless you do something to change that – like paying attention to the other variables discussed above.

If you’d like to more in depth information about how to control each variable to get the gender of your choice,  I’ve put together a couple of cheat sheets to try to make it easy. If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com

How Long Do You Have To Have Sex For A Boy Baby? How About A Girl Baby?

By: Sandy Dean:  People often apologize for not fully understanding how conception works.  But honestly, many of us did not have anyone to teach us.  While our parents may have taught us the basics about the birds and the bees, we may not have been taught exactly what it takes to achieve a pregnancy.

For this reason, many people believe things that aren’t true – like a woman must have an orgasm to become pregnant (not true) or a man must have sex for a certain period of time in order to get a woman pregnant (this isn’t true either.)

Many people also believe that the length of time a man has sex has implications on whether he has a girl or boy baby.  A wife might say: “my husband and I are trying to conceive.  I would like a boy baby.  My mother said that you have to have sex for at least half an hour for a boy, since the boy sperm die off more.  To be honest about it, my husband is not the most lengthy lover.  He tends to not last that long.  I’m not complaining.  It’s never been a problem before.  But I wonder if it is going to keep me from having a girl baby.”

Honestly, there are two things you need to conceive.  Sperm and an egg that is really to be fertilized.  The egg part only happens at a specific time during a woman’s ovulation cycle.  Generally speaking, there is a small window during each month when a woman can become pregnant.  However, all a man needs to provide is the sperm and this can happen at any time during the month for him.  Most men have sex and ejaculate in one sitting.  They may have sex again a short time later.  But the amount of time that it takes them to commit the act does not really have an impact on success or failure.  All that is needed is the ejaculation which contains the sperm – regardless of the amount of time that was taken to achieve it.

Your mother’s theory might assume that the longer period of time means that more sperm is released.  I suppose that this might be true if you were having sex and ejaculating multiple times during that one session, but that is not true of most people.  Most men release millions of sperm chromosomes during one round of sex and ejaculation.  It only takes ONE sperm chromosome for a conception.

What can matter in conception is timing and the woman’s PH.  I think that this is a better place to put your attention, because it is easier to control and it actually does matter – unlike the time that it takes to have sex.  The bottom line is that whether you have sex for 5 minutes or 30, you only need one ejaculation and one sperm chromosome to produce a baby.  And a man’s sperm has chromosomes that are half girl-producing and half boy-producing, regardless of how long it took for them to be released.

If you’d like to learn more about how to optimize your chances of getting the gender that you want, I’ve put together a few websites that focus on the variables that really matter – like timing, PH, and sexual positions.  I explain it step by step. If you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com 

Is There Any Role Of A Woman In Conceiving A Boy Or Girl?

By: Sandy Dean:  I sometimes hear from people who have done a little research about conception and gender selection.  Many have mistakenly come to the conclusion that it is the man who has the only and most important role – especially as it relates to the baby’s gender.  After all, it is the man who provides the sperm.  And it is the sperm that dictates your baby’s gender.

The thought process of many would-be mothers goes something like this: “I’m very discouraged that there is not much that I can do about my baby’s gender.  Everything that I read says that it all comes down to the man’s sperm.  So I pretty much provide an egg (which I can’t control and which is always the same sex chromosome. ) And it is the man who has the variation that makes a boy or girl possible. From what I understand, we can’t really control those chromosomes either, since men have the same numbers of each.  So, what is a woman who is trying to conceive supposed to do, just keep her fingers crossed?  Does she have any role at all?”

Yes, a woman can definitely have a role in her baby’s gender.  I will discuss that momentarily.  But first, I want to stress that, even if you were to discount baby gender, your role is very important.  It is your body that is going to carry, nourish, and protect the baby.  Without you, no baby would be possible.  Never discount that.  And give yourself credit for it.  Now, let’s discuss the woman’s role in the baby’s gender.

Why The Woman Or Mother-To-Be Can Have Very Important Roles In Her Baby’s Gender: In a sense, you can look at the mom-to-be’s body as the welcome station or the gatekeeper for the sperm.  She’s welcoming in two different types – boy-producing sperm (Y) or girl-producing sperm (X.)  Depending on which gender you want, you can either try to make your body friendly or hostile to the different types of sperm.

While the man releases equal numbers of both types, you can try to make it so your body helps to weed out the sperm that you don’t want.  For example, a couple who wants a girl baby would be smart to conceive early, have a very acidic vaginal PH and use shallow positions when love making.  Why?  Because these scenarios help to weed out Y sperm that produces baby boys, giving you a better chance for a girl baby.  Likewise, couples who want a boy would conceive late, have an alkaline PH, and use deeper penetration when love making.

The above scenarios either make the environment easier or harder – depending on the gender that you want.  In terms of vaginal PH, the woman’s role in that can’t be over stated.  Only she can manipulate her PH to make the trip easy or hard for those sperm.  And this isn’t the only way that she contributes. Frankly, I find that the woman often takes the biggest role in planning conception.  She is usually the one marking her temperature or calculating her ovulation testing results on the calendar so she can gauge where she is in her cycle.  She is usually the one who pinpoints the optimal early or late day depending on her desired gender.  And she is usually the one who educates the man about which sexual positions are best to use during conception.

So yes, the woman has a very huge role to play.  Not only is her body a save haven for the baby.  But prior to conception, she can make her body either friendly or hostile to certain types of sperm – tipping the odds in her favor to get the desired gender.  And she’s usually the one who decides on the optimal date and sexual position – all of which can matter greatly when it comes to baby gender.

It’s probably now obvious that PH, timing, and sexual positions are vitally important.  And the woman contributes to all three.   I’ve put together a few websites that explain the contribution of each parent step by step. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

What Can My Husband Do To Make His Y Sperm Stronger?

By: Sandy Dean:  Wives who want boy babies are sometimes looking for methods that they can use to give those boy-producing sperm (or Y’s) an advantage.  Many know (or have read) the boy-producing sperm are weaker and more vulnerable than the X’s or girl-producing sperm.  So an obvious question is what you can do to strengthen them.

Someone might ask: “what can I do to make the boy or Y sperm stronger?  I’ve read that although the Y’s are faster, they are also weaker.  I really want a boy baby.  So what can I do to make them both strong and fast?”

Having Healthy, High Quality, Strong Sperm: Well, the fast part (having fast sperm) is already covered.  As for strength, there are things that men can do to make their sperm quality high so that their sperm is as “strong” as possible.  These things include: maintaining a healthy diet and weight; not smoking or drinking; cutting back on caffeine; lowering stress; getting enough sleep; checking the side effects of any medications; and limiting too tight underwear or time in saunas and hot tubs.

That said, ensuring healthy sperm means that both the X’s and the Y’s are going to be strong and healthy.  There is no way to isolate one sperm over another.  Anything that affects the Y’s is also going to affect the X’s.

Other Possibilities: The above might sound like bad news.  But know that there are things that you can do to help the odds of the Y’s and to decrease the odds of the X’s.  And most of it involves the mom-to-be rather than the dad.  For example, the woman who wants a boy baby can have sex to conceive after ovulation.  Why?  Because we already know that the Y sperm are weak and not living as long, so just having them sitting there prior to the egg’s release is not the optimal thing to do.  It’s better to know that the egg is ready (meaning ovulation has occurred) and to release the sperm only then.

Another thing that can be done is to make sure that the vaginal PH is alkaline.  If it is acidic, that’s detrimental to the already-weak Y sperm.  Also, use deep penetration to give them less space to travel.  These methods do, in a sense, strengthen the Y’s because it gives them the best chance for success.

Of course, you want to encourage your husband to have a healthy lifestyle and body to ensure a high sperm count and quality sperm.  But this means that both X and Y are healthy.  There is no way to isolate one over the other.  So it makes sense to do other things with the woman (where you can isolate some variables) in order to influence baby gender.

If you’d like instructions of what to do to get each baby gender and when, I’ve tried to make it easy to understand. I’ve put together a few websites which hopefully explain it pretty clearly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

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