Does It Make Sense To Continue To Have Sex After Ovulation Stops When Trying To Become Pregnant?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people who are trying to become pregnant as soon as possible. Because of this, they know that they may have to be more deliberate about the timing of their love making. Sure, you can become pregnant by just having sex whenever you feel like it and letting nature take its course, but this might take longer than if you tested for ovulation and then had sex on or around that time in a very deliberate way.

Many people aren’t sure how far to take this though. They will test for ovulation, get a positive, and then be unsure as to when or if they should stop having sex in an attempt to conceive. So, I might hear a comment like: “I understand why people chose to abstain before ovulation happens. They are trying to make sure that their sperm count is high. But what about after ovulation? Does it make sense to keep having sex a couple of days after you get the positive reading? Because at that point, ovulation would have stopped and you are not likely to become pregnant.”

This Depends Upon If There Is A Gender You’d Prefer: My answer to this question really depends upon if you care about your baby’s gender and, if so, which gender you prefer. Here’s why. Having sex prior to ovulation gives you a better chance to conceive a girl baby because the early timing isn’t friendly to the short-lived, boy-producing sperm. By conceiving this early, you are hoping that many of the boy sperm will no longer be present by the time that the fertilization takes place. However, if you are in the situation where are definitely trying for a girl baby, then it is best to stop having sex once you get the positive ovulation reading.

The reason for this is that having sex after ovulation favors a boy baby for the reasons that I described above. If the boy sperm are present at the time of conception (and they are more likely to be if you have sex after ovulation) then they have a slight advantage because they are faster to the egg. So, if you want a boy, your best bet is to wait to get that positive ovulation reading and then go ahead and have sex. From a gender standpoint, continuing to have sex after ovulation if you want a boy isn’t going to hurt your goal. But if you want a girl, this isn’t something that you’d want to do.

Concerns About The Health Of The Sperm After Ovulation: Now, some people are of the mind set that you should stop having sex a couple of days after ovulation because you are increasing your chances of having weak sperm fertilize your egg and this increases the chances of having a miscarriage or a troubled pregnancy. There are lots of differences of opinion about this. But if this is something that worries or concerns you, then there is no harm is stopping intercourse shortly after ovulation and then resuming it well afterwards, knowing that, since you have already ovulated, you are very unlikely to become pregnant until the next month anyway.

It really just depends upon your comfort level and on the baby gender that you want. If you’re attempting to get a girl baby, it would go against your goal to continue to have sex. This timing would be more favorable to a boy baby, but if you’re worried about fertilizing her egg with deteriorating sperm, then it might make sense to relax your conception attempts until you are sure ovulation is more than over.

Plus, it’s not just timing that is important.  If you truly want a specific gender, you’ll also want to consider your diet and PH and the sexual positions used.  If you’d like more specific information on how all of this fits together, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it step by step. If you want a boy baby, check out If you want a girl, see

If You Can Not Have An Orgasm, What Are The Chances Of Having A Son?

By: Sandy Dean:  If you have been researching methods to get a son, you likely already know that you want to have an alkaline PH in order to have the best chance of making this happen.  Female orgasm makes PH more alkaline, which is very convenient if you frequently have an orgasm when you are trying to conceive.  But this reality isn’t true of all women.  And some might wonder if your chances are significantly increased if you can’t always achieve this.

Someone might say: “under normal circumstances, I might have an orgasm 50 percent of the time.  It is just not that easy for me.  However, I am trying to become pregnant right now and we want a boy.  So we are using deep penetration when we have sex and these positions do not lend themselves to me having an orgasm.  Plus, I tense up when I think that we are trying to conceive.  So I don’t usually achieve orgasm when we are actively trying to become pregnant.  Will this mean that I can’t have a boy?”

In my opinion, this absolutely should not mean that you can not have a son.  Female orgasm is just ONE way to get an alkaline PH, but there are certainly other ways.  You can use foods.  You can use douching.  And you may already be relatively alkaline (although you won’t know that until you test.)

Plus, there are two other variables that go into baby gender (timing and sexual positions.)  Yes, you want to cover all three variables, but you can still cover the PH variable using food or douching. And even if for some reason you weren’t successful, taking care of your timing and your sexual positions should still help the odds for you to get a boy.

When you are taking this approach, every variable that you are successful with increases your odds. Each time you address a variable, you are making sure that the Y or boy producing sperm has the best chance to fertilize the egg and you are trying to discourage the X or girl producing sperm. (That’s why it’s optimal to be successful at all three variables because that is giving you the best chance.)  But even success with one variable should theoretically raise your odds.

Of course, it helps to experiment with sexual positions and to relax during sex when you want to orgasm.  But I don’t think that it’s necessarily a deal breaker if you can’t.  And stressing over it just makes it less likely to happen.  So just cover the bases that you can and try to relax and actually enjoy the conception process.  If you did nothing, you’d still have 50 / 50 odds.  By addressing everything that you can, you increase those odds, which is always a good thing.

If it were me, I would know my PH going into this.  And then I would tweak my diet and douche as necessary.  And I’d continue to test to see how different things affect me   Once you are aware of these numbers, there are some good resources to help you determine the optimal range for a boy baby.  I’ve listed some of the resources on some free blogs.   If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

Is There Any Way To Tell If My PH Is Naturally Acidic Or Alkaline Before Conceiving If I Don’t Have A Way To Test? Can You Go By Smell Or Appearance Or Secretions?

By: Sandy Dean:  If you are researching conceiving the gender of your choice, you probably are starting to realize that your vaginal PH has a lot to do with your ability to be successful in choosing your baby’s gender.  If your vaginal PH is alkaline, you’re more likely to have a boy.  If it is acidic, you are more likely to have a girl.  Some women tend to stay in one range over the course of their lifetime.  Others find that even small variables make their PH swing wildly.  Some women are lucky enough to be in the right general range for their desired gender.  For example, someone who wants a girl may already be quite acidic and so then all she would need to do would be to test herself right before she conceives to make sure her PH is still correct. If so,  she could then turn her attention to using the correct timing and to the correct sexual positions.  But how do you know if you are in the right range and if not, how far out of range you are?

I sometimes have people ask me if you can tell if you are acidic or alkaline by smell or by the texture of secretions.  For example, someone might say: “I want a boy baby.  And I know that I need to be alkaline for this to happen.  I don’t have a PH tester.  And I know that I can’t know my exact PH without one, but is there anyway to know if I’m just generally alkaline?  I’ve heard that if you are acidic, you will have a lot of vaginal infections and you’ll have grey discharge or notice a fishy smell.  Is this true?  I do have a lot of infections, but there isn’t always a strong smell.”

Your vaginal secretions change during your ovulation cycle.  The mucus changes in texture in anticipation of ovulation in order to make it easier for the sperm to fertilize the egg.  So, while I’m not a doctor, I think that gauging your PH based on these secretions isn’t a great idea as they are constantly changing anyway.  While bad bacteria can thrive in an elevated PH, this is indication of an infection and not what your PH might be when you normally are not infected.   Not only that, but your PH can change because of your diet, because you have sex (female orgasm can change PH significantly) and for other reasons.  That’s why women who are trying to choose their baby’s gender are encouraged to check their PH very often and then make tweaks as necessary.

Honestly, PH testers are very inexpensive.  While you’re at it, check out the reusable ovulation predictors that make your timing easier.  (Here’s an example of some on Ebay.) It’s so important to know your PH while you are actively trying to conceive.  And since it can change, it’s important to continue to test regularly.  Unfortunately, I don’t know of a reliable way to know your PH other than to quickly, easily, and cheaply test yourself.  Once you know your number, there are some good resources to help you determine the optimal range for a boy baby.  I’ve listed some of the resources on some free blogs.   If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

If You Conceive In The Same Month As Your First Child Will The Gender Be The Same?

By: Sandy Dean:  It’s not uncommon for women who already have a baby of one gender to assume that they are likely to get the same gender when they become pregnant again.  What I mean by that is that mothers of daughters might suspect that they will have difficulty conceiving a son the second time around and vice verse.  Some worry that the method that they used the first time around might come into play this time.

For example, a woman who had a girl might say: “for my first pregnancy, I conceived in June and had a daughter.  This was ideal because the part of my pregnancy when I became big occurred when it was not so hot outside and I was comfortable.  I honestly wouldn’t mind conceiving in the summer again, but this time I want a boy.  One of my friends say that if I conceive in the same month as I did with my daughter, then I will have another girl.  Is this true?”

Well, it could be true, but not because of the month in which you conceived.  Unless you are using special methods to get the gender of your choice, you have about a 50 / 50 chance of getting either gender. A man’s sperm has equal numbers of girl and boy producing sperm and this doesn’t change, no matter what month you are trying to conceive in. Things that can influence baby gender are: the woman’s vaginal PH; the sexual positions used; whether orgasm took place (because it changes vaginal PH,) and when the woman ovulated in relation to when she attempted to conceive.  None of these things have anything to do with the month or the season.  And you can change these variables at any time during the year.

So for example, when you conceived in June, you may have had an acidic PH (which is hostile to boy sperm) and you may have ovulated before ovulation and used shallow penetration when you attempted to conceive.  All of these things would have discouraged boy sperm and encouraged girl sperm.  As you might deduct, if you had used the same methods in November, you may have gotten the same result.

So yes, if you do nothing the odds may give you the same gender that you had before as you have 50 / 50 odds anyway.  But if you want the opposite gender, then you’d just change up the variables needed for a boy (an alkaline PH, conceiving after ovulation, and the right sexual positions.) This can be done January through December, to be honest.  So there would be no reason that you could not conceive a boy in June.  You’d just want to keep an eye on the variables mentioned above.

To help you better understand how the variables come into play and when to implement each one, I’ve put together a couple of free websites that outline the process to choose your baby’s gender step by step.  If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

If We Have Sex On Alternate Days For A Whole Month, Which Gender Is More Likely To Be Conceived

By: Sandy Dean:  I sometimes hear from young couples who want to try to become pregnant.  Understandably, they are excited about the prospect of starting a family and they want to get started right away.  They also want quick results – so many of them will figure that quantity is important in this process.  By that I mean that they have chosen to have sex frequently – say, every other day.  They figure that by doing so, they can cover all of their bases and not leave any day that could be a conception day “wasted.”

For example, someone might say: “once my husband and I made the decision to have a baby this year, I decided why waste any time?  We stopped using condoms immediately.  And now we have decided to have sex every other day.  I don’t want to lower his sperm count by having sex every single day.  And I know that sperm can last for a while, so I figure that alternating days have me covered.  But I’m wondering what this schedule will do in terms of giving me a girl or boy baby?  Which is more likely?”

That’s hard to predict because when you are using the on / off schedule, there is no way to predict if you are actually going to ovulate on an “off “day or an “on” day.  And this is vitally important.  Your ovulation day (and when you have intercourse in relationship to it) can largely impact your baby’s gender.  I understand your thought process, but I think that your plan could be better.  Why? Because what if you ovulate on the morning of an “off” day?  If you want a boy baby, then it’s best to have sex pretty quickly after you have ovulated.  But if that’s your “off” day, then this timing isn’t optimal.  Of course, if you ovulate and then have sex on your “on” day, then this would favor a boy baby.

Now, if you wanted a girl, then this alternating schedule still has some flaws.  If you are trying for a girl, you want to have sex well before ovulation, BUT you want to stop having sex once ovulation happens.   You can’t do this if you are still following that alternating schedule.

The better way to go about this is to be very well aware of when you ovulate.  You can easily do this by using saliva or urine ovulation predictors.  (You can see examples of the saliva sticks on Ebay here.) If you want a girl, you may want to give yourself a month to get a good feel of when you ovulate so that you are ready to go the next month.  Once you know EXACTLY when you ovulate, then you can have sex accordingly, depending on the gender that you want. (Although please do be aware that some women ovulate at different times on different months.)

While the alternating schedule does assure frequency, it is like trying to hit a bull’s eye that you can’t see.  But if you are using an ovulation predictor and know when you are ovulating, then you can see your target much more easily.  The more information that you have, the easier it is to be successful in choosing your baby’s gender.

Speaking of which, I’ve put together a couple of free websites that outline the process to choose your baby’s gender step by step.  If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

If I Have Sex During Ovulation, Will The Ovulation Continue After Sex?

By: Sandy Dean:  Most people who want to conceive in the near future realize that a woman typically only has a certain period of time in any given month when she can become pregnant.  A woman will typically have a menstrual period which is eventually followed by an ovulation window.  This ovulation period is when a woman is most likely to conceive.  It is the time of the month when her egg is ready to be fertilized and is then released so that sperm can fertilize it for a pregnancy.

Naturally, people wanting to conceive will try very hard to identify this ovulation window and then to have sex around it.  This ensures that you have the highest chance of actually becoming pregnant.  But some wonder what happens once you DO have sex during this time period.  Does the act of having sex stop your window? Do you only have one shot at this?

Someone might say: “my wife has one of those ovulation predictor things that you pee on.  My understanding is that once she gets a positive, we should have sex because that means that she is ovulating.  But does having sex mean that her ovulation stops? Are there chemicals released or something that stop the ovulation?  We want a girl baby, so we want to make sure that we get it right.”

Actually having sex does not influence the ovulation at all.  Frankly, you could not stop this process (once it has started) if you tried.  A woman’s egg release has more to do with hormonal changes that relate to her monthly cycle.  In the days leading up to ovulation, she is still fertile because a man’s sperm can actually live for some time inside of her body.  So even if the egg has not yet been released, sperm that is waiting on the egg can still fertilize it.

Once the egg is released, the window begins closing because both the sperm and the egg are only viable (and can survive) for a short period of time.  This means that you can have sex for a few days before ovulation actually happens and also on the day of ovulation (or very shortly after it) and still get pregnant, regardless of how many times you have sex. The frequency of sex does not stop the ovulation.

Now, some people do feel that you should be deliberate with how many times you have sex during this period because if you have it too much, then sperm count (and also the quality) will be lower.  The validity of this depends on the man’s sperm count (and the quality of it) to begin with.  But to answer the question, no, having sex doesn’t stop ovulation.  In fact, in order to get pregnant, you’ll need to have it at least once during that window.  But nature wouldn’t be so cruel as to give you only one crack at it.  Yes, the window is only open for a short period of time, but you can have sex more than once during the window without it stopping ovulation.

As far as gender selection goes, the timing of sexual intercourse matters here.  If you conceive days before ovulation, you have a better chance of getting a girl, which is why waiting to get a positive using the pee or urine ovulation sticks are too late.  In my opinion, the saliva sticks are better because they give you more warning, especially if you want a girl. (You can see examples of the saliva sticks on Ebay here.

If you’re interested in steps to take to make sure you get the gender of your choice, I’ve broken it down on a couple of websites. If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

If I Want A Boy, Which Day Is My PH More Alkaline? Which Day Is It More Acidic If I Want A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean:  It’s understandable that women trying to become pregnant with a certain gender spend a lot of time trying to determine the optimal day on which to conceive.  This is important because if you get your timing wrong, you could accomplish the exact opposite of your goal.  A couple who wants a boy could get a girl and vice verse.

If you’ve been researching how to get the gender of your choice, then you know that your vaginal PH and your timing are two very important variables in this equation. So women in this situation naturally wonder when their vaginal environment is going to be optimal.  Women who want a girl will want to know when their vaginal environment is naturally acidic (which is ideal when you want a daughter) in the same way that women who want a boy baby want to know the ideal time that their environment is most alkaline (which is what you want to conceive a son.)

A question you might get in this situation is something like: “I’ve heard that early in your cycle, you’re more acidic, but are also more alkaline later on.  Is this true?  What days of the month are more likely to be acidic and which are more likely to be alkaline?  I want a boy, so I am looking for alkaline days.”

I’m not a doctor or specialist, but I can tell you what I have found from my research.  It’s thought that many women tend to be slightly acidic naturally because this state discourages infections.  If you have reoccurring yeast or bacterial infections, then you might trend toward being naturally alkaline.  However, one’s natural PH varies from woman to woman and you can easily test this.

Plus, there are many things that can change your PH.  One thing that potentially changes it every month is ovulation.  When a woman ovulates, her cervical mucus changes and becomes more thin.  This makes her vaginal environment slightly more alkaline and this is a more friendly environment to the sperm.  (An acidic environment is more hostile and that is why an acidic environment is said to encourage the much more hardy girl sperm.)

Other things that can change your vaginal PH include hormonal changes; (like ovulation, but also things like thyroid issues, medications, etc.) using perfumed feminine hygiene products; douching; and strict or harsh diets.  One common thing that can change the PH very dramatically are tampons and the chemicals that they contain.  Also, they hold fluids in the vagina, which can  cause additional PH fluctuations.  That is why some women tend to get infections after their menstrual period. (However, since most women ovulate well after their menstrual period and have been free of tampons for several days, this usually doesn’t come into play.)

If you, like most women tend to be slightly acidic right before ovulation, it makes sense that ovulation would help you become slightly alkaline.  This happens without your needing to do anything.  If the woman has an orgasm during sex, this helps to create an environment that is more alkaline still.  But whether you are at the optimal level isn’t going to be obvious unless you test yourself to be sure.

If you want a girl, you may have to test yourself and then experiment with douches or diet to get back to an ideal acidic state.  Or, you may start out so acidic that this adjustment isn’t needed.  If you want a boy, the act of ovulation might be enough to get you alkaline, but you can’t possibly know that unless you test yourself which leads me to my next point.

The best way to know your starting level and then to know where you are when you conceive is to test.  The PH strips are easy to find and inexpensive.  If you test yourself prior to trying to conceive and find that your level isn’t great for the gender you want, then you can always tweak it with your diet and with douching.  Even then, you still need to test right before you attempt to conceive to make sure the level is still right.

This is only applicable if you care deeply about the baby’s gender, of course.  If that’s the case, it makes sense to take the extra effort to make sure that everything is optimal.

If you’d like step by step instructions of how to do this and when, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it more directly. If you want a girl baby, see If you want a boy, check out

If My Period Changes Dates From Month To Month Does This Mean I Can’t Become Pregnant With The Gender Of My Choice

By: Sandy Dean:  Most women who are either trying to become pregnant or trying to avoid a pregnancy realize that the timing of their period becomes very important.  Because the menstrual period is at least indicative that ovulation has already occurred for the month – so you can plan accordingly.  After all, in the vast majority of the cases, a period occurs because no pregnancy has taken place for that month.  And your ovulation and menstrual cycle start all over again.  (I say “the vast majority” of the cases because some women actually have continued to have periods even while they were pregnant.  It is relatively rare.  But it does happen.  So you can’t say with one hundred percent certainty that you are not pregnant once you get your period, but for most women, this is the case.)

Whether a woman is trying to avoid or achieve pregnancy, she will often use her period to gauge when she might need to avoid or attempt sex (and therefore a pregnancy.)  But what happens when your period is hard to gauge?  What if you are trying to become pregnant and your period happens at various times throughout the month?  For example, someone might ask: “are you even fertile if you have periods at different times from month to month and when the date is always changing?  I want to become pregnant, but last month, my period came on the 20th and this month it wasn’t until the 28th.  So I have no idea when I can become pregnant.  This would be hard enough if I didn’t care about gender.  But I do.  I want a girl and I have heard people say that this is going to be even harder to achieve? Can you become pregnant when you are always having your period on different dates? Can you get the gender that you want?”

The Timing Can Work If You Are Careful: The answer is yes on both counts, and I will explain why.  You don’t need periods to happen in the same way every single time to become pregnant.  Many women have cycles that vary from month to month.  And your menstrual cycle (your period) and your fertility cycle (where you ovulate) are two different things.  Ovulation occurs first when the egg is ready to be fertilized.  If there is no sperm present to fertilize the egg and no pregnancy occurs, then your period starts.  These two parts of your cycle can both vary as to when they occur.  Certain factors can delay or affect them.  And some women just have cycles that vary naturally.

However, this doesn’t mean that both processes aren’t happening normally even if their timing might be a little different.  Now, determining when they might occur can be very important when you are trying to become pregnant.  Because you want to have sex AROUND the time of ovulation.  The egg only lives for a short while.  So if you have sex too early before the egg is released then you won’t be able to become pregnant.  If you wait too late after the egg has been released, then the egg won’t be viable anymore.  That’s why timing is so important.

Knowing EXACTLY When The Timeframe Is Optimal: The good news is that you don’t have to guess.  Ovulation predictor kits mean that you can know when this has occurred so that you can have sex at the appropriate time (and when pregnancy and conception are most likely to occur.)  In terms of baby gender, this is a bit more tricky.  Because the timing needs more precision in this case.  For a boy, you want to have sex after ovulation.  This isn’t that difficult because no matter when your period occurs, the ovulation kit can tell you exactly when you are about to ovulate.  You know ovulation is very close so if you have sex a short time later, then you are a little more likely to get a boy.  A girl conception is a bit harder because by the time you get a positive reading in most kits, you’re at the timing for a boy.  That’s why the saliva predictor (as opposed to the urine) kits are better for couples who want a girl.  They are more sensitive and give you a more generous lead time, which is more conducive to a girl baby.

But no, having your period at different times of the month doesn’t mean that you can’t become pregnant.  You likely can, at least in my opinion.  You may just have to monitor with a kit, but this is very easy to do.  And if you want a certain gender, you’ll have to monitor a little more closely and use other methods.

Now, timing isn’t the only variable that matters.  If you’re trying to control your baby’s gender, timing is very important, but you also need to consider PH and the sexual positions used.  I have set up free websites to explain each of these variables in ways that I hope are easy to understand.  I’ve put together a couple of cheat sheets to try to make it easy. If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

How To Tell If Your Husband Can Only Have Boys. Or Girls. Is This Possible?

By: Sandy Dean:  I sometimes hear from folks who are getting ready to marry a man (or who have already married him) and are trying to gauge his ability to get the gender that is desired when it comes time to conceive a baby.  Sometimes, a man has already fathered children and people tend to think that he will get the same gender that he has already produced.  For example, if he is the father of boys then people may assume that he is likely to have another boy and may not be able to have girls.

Other times, this will be the man’s first baby and the mother-to-be wants to ensure that he can provide the gender that she wants. So she might say: “my husband and I have been married for about fourteen months.  We have been trying pretty much that whole time to become pregnant.  We have not succeeded, but I am trying not to worry. My  mother said that she doesn’t think my husband will be able to have a boy because he looks more effeminate than masculine and he has long fingers.  She says that men who look like this do not produce boys. I am not sure if this is true.  My husband has brothers, so I think that boys might run in his family.  And I’m not sure that you can tell if a man can father a certain gender by the looks of him.  One of my friends says you can tell by looking at his sperm.  Is this true?  Is there any way to tell what gender a man will father by looking at or examining him?”

Despite what a man (or his sperm) may look like, men have both X and Y sperm chromosomes (which produce both boys and girls) and they have equal numbers of each.  This means that they can father both genders and have an equal amount of chances to do so.  There has been studies of men who have had all boys and all girls and this testing showed that even in these circumstances, the fathers still had both X and Y sperm chromosomes – which means that they could have produced either gender.

A man’s sperm chromosomes have nothing to do whatsoever with his personal appearance or the appearance of anything else that comes out of his body. It has to do with the sperm chromosomes inside of his body.  And luckily, nature provides him with equal amounts of what he needs to father either a girl or a boy.

I know that you may be thinking: “but what about those men who have five sons?  Or seven daughters?”  I would suspect this has to do with the mother of those daughters or sons.  Why?  Since a man has both X and Y sperm chromosomes, the other part of the baby-making equation is the woman.  Women who are acidic have a better chance of getting girls and women who are alkaline have a better chance of getting boys. (This has to do with vaginal PH.) It could be that those men having daughters were married an acidic wife. And the sons in question might have an alkaline mother.

Another thing that contributes to baby gender is sexual position and timing.  Perhaps the couple used the same sexual position over and over again resulting in the same gender.  Perhaps they always conceived after or before ovulation each and every time.  There are many possibilities.

But you certainly can’t evaluate these possibilities by looking at a man.  And you can’t really “tell” what gender he will produce at all.  Because all men technically have the capability of making both.  If you want one over the other, your best bet is to control what you can – which is the mother-to-be’s PH, the sexual positions used, and the timing.

Incidentally, if a man has had a certain gender before, it’s a good sign that he’s fertile.  But you start over every time (when you’re taking about odds.)  Having girls previously doesn’t mean that you will have girls this time.  You’re dealing with the same X / Y chromosomes which gives you an equal chance of either gender, unless you do something to change that – like paying attention to the other variables discussed above.

If you’d like to more in depth information about how to control each variable to get the gender of your choice,  I’ve put together a couple of cheat sheets to try to make it easy. If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.comIf you want a girl, see

How Long Do You Have To Have Sex For A Boy Baby? How About A Girl Baby?

By: Sandy Dean:  People often apologize for not fully understanding how conception works.  But honestly, many of us did not have anyone to teach us.  While our parents may have taught us the basics about the birds and the bees, we may not have been taught exactly what it takes to achieve a pregnancy.

For this reason, many people believe things that aren’t true – like a woman must have an orgasm to become pregnant (not true) or a man must have sex for a certain period of time in order to get a woman pregnant (this isn’t true either.)

Many people also believe that the length of time a man has sex has implications on whether he has a girl or boy baby.  A wife might say: “my husband and I are trying to conceive.  I would like a boy baby.  My mother said that you have to have sex for at least half an hour for a boy, since the boy sperm die off more.  To be honest about it, my husband is not the most lengthy lover.  He tends to not last that long.  I’m not complaining.  It’s never been a problem before.  But I wonder if it is going to keep me from having a girl baby.”

Honestly, there are two things you need to conceive.  Sperm and an egg that is really to be fertilized.  The egg part only happens at a specific time during a woman’s ovulation cycle.  Generally speaking, there is a small window during each month when a woman can become pregnant.  However, all a man needs to provide is the sperm and this can happen at any time during the month for him.  Most men have sex and ejaculate in one sitting.  They may have sex again a short time later.  But the amount of time that it takes them to commit the act does not really have an impact on success or failure.  All that is needed is the ejaculation which contains the sperm – regardless of the amount of time that was taken to achieve it.

Your mother’s theory might assume that the longer period of time means that more sperm is released.  I suppose that this might be true if you were having sex and ejaculating multiple times during that one session, but that is not true of most people.  Most men release millions of sperm chromosomes during one round of sex and ejaculation.  It only takes ONE sperm chromosome for a conception.

What can matter in conception is timing and the woman’s PH.  I think that this is a better place to put your attention, because it is easier to control and it actually does matter – unlike the time that it takes to have sex.  The bottom line is that whether you have sex for 5 minutes or 30, you only need one ejaculation and one sperm chromosome to produce a baby.  And a man’s sperm has chromosomes that are half girl-producing and half boy-producing, regardless of how long it took for them to be released.

If you’d like to learn more about how to optimize your chances of getting the gender that you want, I’ve put together a few websites that focus on the variables that really matter – like timing, PH, and sexual positions.  I explain it step by step. If you want a girl, see If you want a boy baby, check out 

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