If I Have A Period Twice In One Month, Does My Ovulation Schedule Change? What Does This Mean If I’m Trying To Conceive A Boy Or Girl?

By: Sandy Dean: Many women use their menstrual periods to help them determine when ovulation is likely to be on its way. Menstruation or being on your period is something that is hard to ignore, so it makes sense that this is the time that many women consider to be the beginning of their fertility cycle. And, when your period is regular, this can make sense as long as you follow up with an ovulation predictor to confirm what you already suspect. But what happens when your cycle isn’t regular? What happens when you skip a period or have more than one a month? Does this mean you’re ovulating twice or not at all?

I recently heard from someone who said: “my menstrual periods have always been very erratic. There have been times when I would go for a couple of months and not have a period at all. And then other times, I’ve had a couple of periods in a month’s time that occurred only a couple of weeks apart. Am I ovulating during the months when I’m having periods and not ovulating when I’m not having one?” I’m trying to conceive a boy baby and I know that sexual intercourse needs to happen after ovulation but with my erratic menstruation schedule, I am just not sure how to proceed.”

It’s very difficult to answer these questions without knowing more. Some women ovulate in the absence of menstrual periods. And some don’t.  Also, not all women who have regular periods are also regularly ovulating. The only definitive way to tell for sure is to see your doctor for testing (which is preferable)  or to test yourself with an ovulation predictor. These predictors pick up surges in your hormones which confirm ovulation. Sometimes, when I explain this to women who don’t have periods or who have multiple periods, they are still confused as to when to start testing. They will often ask me if they should wait until they have their next period to begin.

In my opinion, waiting truly isn’t necessary. People use their period as a starting point because it makes things easier. However, there is no need to wait when your cycle is so irregular. You could just as easily chose a day and test until you get a positive reading to indicate that ovulation has either happened or is getting ready to happen. The idea is that you continue to test until you get a positive. For some women, this may take a while especially if they don’t ovulate on a regular schedule. And others might be lucky and find that their positive reading comes quite quickly. But testing for hormones is a much more reliable way to tell if you are ovulating then trying to use your period as a starting point and then to just guess. Because not all women ovulate mid way through their cycle and some women ovulate in the absence of periods or even when they have excess periods.

So to answer the question posed, your ovulation schedule may or may not change if you have two periods in one month. The answer really depends on the reason you’re experiencing the two monthly periods and why you are have been ovulating in a regular or irregular pattern in the first place. Many people worry that irregular ovulation means you either can’t get pregnant or that you can’t get pregnant with the gender of your choice. This isn’t accurate. It may take longer since you may have less opportunities for conception, but any time you ovulate, you can become pregnant. And any time you ovulate at the right time and then schedule your attempts at conception around that time, you can influence your baby’s gender.

I know that I’ve given you a lot to think about and that sorting it out can be a little difficult.  If you’d like to read more about this process and see it explained step by step, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/ (for a boy baby) or http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/ (for a girl baby)

How Can A Man Produce More X Or Female Sperm So I Can Have A Girl Baby?

By: Sandy Dean: Women often theorize that they get the baby gender that they do because their husband or significant other doesn’t produce enough of the right type of sperm.  In other words, mothers of boys will think that their husband can’t produce any or enough girl producing sperm (X.)  While mothers of girls will think that their husband doesn’t make enough Y sperm, which is the sperm that produces sons.

Someone might say: “I know that my husband can produce a girl baby.  His first daughter from his first marriage was a girl. That was over eleven years ago, though.  Now he is remarried to me and we have two children – both of them are boys.  So my theory is that my husband is no longer producing as much girl sperm, if any.  I want a girl for my third child.  I want this very badly.  So what can I do to make my husband produce more X sperm?  My girlfriends were teasing that I should feed him feminine things like fruity drinks or chocolate.  That’s probably silly, but I’m willing to try anything.  How can I get him to produce X sperm once again?”

I do understand your concern.  Some people will say it’s petty to have a preference as to your baby’s gender when you are trying to get pregnant.  I don’t think it’s petty so long as you’ll love whatever you ultimately get.  But there’s nothing wrong with trying to up the odds in your own favor.

However, I think you might be making a mistake to assume that your husband isn’t producing any or enough X sperm.  If a man is producing sperm at all, he’s generally producing equal numbers of both X and Y.  There have been studies on men who’ve only produced one gender time and time again.  The assumption was that these men would only have sperm that would produce the gender of the children they already had. However, this wasn’t what the researchers found at all.  They found that these men had equal amounts of sperm that could produce either a boy or girl. So men who had only daughters were able to produce boy sperm and vice verse. I’m certainly not a doctor, but unless you know of a medical issue, I’m not sure that there’s any reason to assume that your husband is producing anything other than both X and Y sperm.  Your having two boys could be absolutely random (since you 50 / 50 odds each time.)

Or, it could be that your own PH trends toward alkaline.  Women with an alkaline PH have a more friendly environment toward a boy conception. And some women are naturally alkaline without knowing it or without doing anything to make it come about. This isn’t the only possibility, though.  Having intercourse late in your ovulation cycle is another factor that may be causing you to be more favorable to conceiving boys, as is having a female orgasm during intercourse and /or using deep penetration.  All of these things could have given the boy sperm advantages.  And these things have nothing to do with your husband’s sperm.

But, if you can reverse this, you might get the reverse result next time and have a girl. If you create an acidic environment and conceive earlier, you might see a difference. See, it’s really not about making more X sperm because the chances are good that you already have an equal number of X and Y sperm to work with.  The better strategy is to try to encourage the X sperm and kill off the Y sperm after it’s release and before it can fertilize your egg.

And there’s a lot that a woman can do to influence her baby’s gender. And there’s also plenty of strategies to discourage what she doesn’t want. I’ve put together a few websites that explain it step by step. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

If I Want A Boy, Which Day Is My PH More Alkaline? Which Day Is It More Acidic If I Want A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean:  It’s understandable that women trying to become pregnant with a certain gender spend a lot of time trying to determine the optimal day on which to conceive.  This is important because if you get your timing wrong, you could accomplish the exact opposite of your goal.  A couple who wants a boy could get a girl and vice verse.

If you’ve been researching how to get the gender of your choice, then you know that your vaginal PH and your timing are two very important variables in this equation. So women in this situation naturally wonder when their vaginal environment is going to be optimal.  Women who want a girl will want to know when their vaginal environment is naturally acidic (which is ideal when you want a daughter) in the same way that women who want a boy baby want to know the ideal time that their environment is most alkaline (which is what you want to conceive a son.)

A question you might get in this situation is something like: “I’ve heard that early in your cycle, you’re more acidic, but are also more alkaline later on.  Is this true?  What days of the month are more likely to be acidic and which are more likely to be alkaline?  I want a boy, so I am looking for alkaline days.”

I’m not a doctor or specialist, but I can tell you what I have found from my research.  It’s thought that many women tend to be slightly acidic naturally because this state discourages infections.  If you have reoccurring yeast or bacterial infections, then you might trend toward being naturally alkaline.  However, one’s natural PH varies from woman to woman and you can easily test this.

Plus, there are many things that can change your PH.  One thing that potentially changes it every month is ovulation.  When a woman ovulates, her cervical mucus changes and becomes more thin.  This makes her vaginal environment slightly more alkaline and this is a more friendly environment to the sperm.  (An acidic environment is more hostile and that is why an acidic environment is said to encourage the much more hardy girl sperm.)

Other things that can change your vaginal PH include hormonal changes; (like ovulation, but also things like thyroid issues, medications, etc.) using perfumed feminine hygiene products; douching; and strict or harsh diets.  One common thing that can change the PH very dramatically are tampons and the chemicals that they contain.  Also, they hold fluids in the vagina, which can  cause additional PH fluctuations.  That is why some women tend to get infections after their menstrual period. (However, since most women ovulate well after their menstrual period and have been free of tampons for several days, this usually doesn’t come into play.)

If you, like most women tend to be slightly acidic right before ovulation, it makes sense that ovulation would help you become slightly alkaline.  This happens without your needing to do anything.  If the woman has an orgasm during sex, this helps to create an environment that is more alkaline still.  But whether you are at the optimal level isn’t going to be obvious unless you test yourself to be sure.

If you want a girl, you may have to test yourself and then experiment with douches or diet to get back to an ideal acidic state.  Or, you may start out so acidic that this adjustment isn’t needed.  If you want a boy, the act of ovulation might be enough to get you alkaline, but you can’t possibly know that unless you test yourself which leads me to my next point.

The best way to know your starting level and then to know where you are when you conceive is to test.  The PH strips are easy to find and inexpensive.  If you test yourself prior to trying to conceive and find that your level isn’t great for the gender you want, then you can always tweak it with your diet and with douching.  Even then, you still need to test right before you attempt to conceive to make sure the level is still right.

This is only applicable if you care deeply about the baby’s gender, of course.  If that’s the case, it makes sense to take the extra effort to make sure that everything is optimal.

If you’d like step by step instructions of how to do this and when, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it more directly. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

Is It True That The Right Ovary Gives You A Boy And The Left Gives You A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean:  If you trying to become pregnant and are really motivated to get the gender of your choice, you may become more open to “old wives’ tales and superstitions, even though you may normally be skeptical of such things.  After all, what harm is it to try?

For the most part, there isn’t any, unless you really are serious and you really do have your hopes up.  Because many of these theories are not only not rooted in science, but there are very improbably when you examine them a little more closely.  One such example is the idea that the right ovary gives you a boy baby, while the left gives you a girl.

Someone might say: “I am pretty sure that I ovulate from my right side because this side always hurts half-way through my cycle when I think I’m ovulating.  However, my nana says that I can only get a girl if I ovulate from my left side.  I want a girl.  So what can I do?  Am I doomed to have a boy?”

Before I answer, I want to stress that XY chromosomes will give you a boy and XX will give you a girl.  Here is how it breaks down.  The mom can only offer the child X.  Regardless of whether the egg comes from her right or her left ovary, it is only possible for her to contribute an X.  A man can contribute both X or Y.  His sperm contains equal numbers of both.  Which sperm makes it to the egg (which again, can only be X) is going to determine whether you get a boy or a girl. If a Y sperm chromosome gets the egg first, then it is a boy.  If it’s an X, then it is girl.

Hopefully, you can see from this that it doesn’t matter which ovary your egg comes from.  As the woman and the mom, you are only going to contribute X regardless.  So there is no variable there.

Where is the variable?  In what the father produces.  He can offer both X and Y.  Now, the mom is limited to just X chromosomes.  However, her body houses the sperm on its way to the egg.  And her body can either be friendly or hostile to that sperm.  If you want a girl, then you want to be friendly to X and hostile to Y.  If you want a boy, then you want to be hostile to X and friendly to Y.

You can’t see these sperm chromosomes inside of your body.  You can only know that he will produce equal numbers of them.  But you can educate yourself on the way that they behave in your body.  Y (or boy producing) sperm are faster but do not thrive in an acidic environment. X (or girl producing) are very hardy and strong and can thrive in both acidic and alkaline.

So if you want a girl, you’d want to create an acidic environment.  And you’d want to create a longer fertility window, giving the boy sperm a chance to die off.  There are ways to do this.  I have set up two websites that explain it.  If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com

I hope that this article has shown you that the dual ovary theory isn’t based on science, since the mom is only going to come up with the egg (X) regardless of the ovary that is used.  As long as the egg is viable and is ready to be fertilized by the sperm, you have the same result regardless of the ovary.  The real gender selection happens when the ovary meets sperm, not when the ovary is released.

What Should A Man Eat To Conceive a Boy Or A Girl Baby?

by: Sandy Dean: I often hear from women who ask me what they should eat when they are trying to conceive a girl or a boy baby.  Many of them have read my articles about the importance of  your diet when it comes to creating an alkaline PH (when you want a boy baby) and creating an acidic PH (when you want a girl baby.)

Sometimes though, I hear from men asking the same type of questions.  The men want to know if the same advice applies to them or if there is any changes that they should be making to their diets.  So a man who wants to produce a girl baby might ask me how what sort of acidic foods that they might eat.  Or a man who wants  a son might be interested in alkaline foods.  But here’s the thing.  There’s no evidence that indicates that the man or father’s diet (or what he eats) has any influence on his baby’s gender (or whether he has a boy or a girl.)

With that said, the woman or mother’s diet can be vitally important.  Here’s the difference.  A woman’s vaginal PH can either be friendly or hostile to the sperm chromosomes produced by the man.  During conception, a man’s sperm is made up of equal parts of boy producing sperm (Y) and girl producing sperm (X).  If the couple wants to conceive a girl, an acidic vaginal environment can discourage or help kill off the boy producing sperm.  And if the couple wants a boy, an alkaline environment can help encourage the boy sperm.

However, there’s no evidence at all that the same holds true for the man’s diet.  There have been studies on the sperm of men who are prone to conceive only girl or boy babies.  And, when examined, their sperm still contained equal parts of X (girl producing) and Y (boy producing) sperm.  So while it’s advisable for a man to eat a healthy and varied diet when he’s trying to conceive, there seems to be no reason for him to try to  make himself more alkaline or acidic.  In fact, some theorize that doing so may affect his fertility.  Sometimes, when I share this with men they ask me what they can do to help make sure that they get the gender that they are after.  Men can feel very helpless when much of the PH changes need to happen with the woman and her diet.

Even so, there’s a lot a man can do.  He can help the mother to be track her fertility (ovulation) and her PH levels to help her pinpoint the optimal day to conceive.  He can get her an excellent food list and a good PH tester and encourage her to test every time she eats something to see how she responds individually to different foods (so that she can determine which foods lower or raise her PH levels depending on whether she is trying to conceive a girl and a boy.)  And he can be willing to use the best sexual positions for the gender that the couple are trying to conceive (even if they are not his favorite sexual positions at the time.)

Because admittedly this process takes a bit of work.  The mother to be is going to have to monitor her ovulation, tweak her diet, and perhaps experiment with douching if she doesn’t get the results that she wants right away.  And sometimes sex has to be scheduled or limited to the right time.  And a man who is supportive about all of this helps more than a man can possibly know.  So frankly, I tell men that the best thing that they can do to help the mother of their child conceive  a boy or a girl baby is to help her to understand the process and support her in it every step of the way.

If it helps, I’ve put together a few websites that take a lot of the guess work out of choosing your baby’s gender. You’ll find: step by step instructions; information on diet and PH testers; resources for determining ovulation times (and examples of good saliva and ovulation predictors;) resources for douche recipes and food PH lists; information on when to conceive; and support.

If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/

If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/

How Can A Man Help Conceive A Boy Baby? What About A Girl?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from women who want to know that their boyfriend or husband needs to do to help them conceive a boy or girl baby. Occasionally, I hear from the men themselves who are trying to do everything in their power to help the woman they love get the baby gender of her choice. The truth is, there is plenty that a man can do to help conceive a boy or girl baby. But sometimes, his role is more of a supporting one, which might come as a surprise to you.

Here are a few examples.  Many people ask me what the man should be eating to achieve a certain sperm PH. Or they want to know if he should restrict himself in terms of food, exercise, or the clothing that he wears. The truth is, the PH of his sperm does not affect baby gender in the way that a woman’s PH does. Plus, men have a 50 / 50 ratio of Y to X sperm (boy and girl producing.) And this is typically true no matter what his family history is (in terms of baby gender) and no matter what makes up his diet.

There have been studies which show that even men who have had only boys or only girls still have these same ratios. I know that men can be desperate to help and are more than willing to tweak their diet or their lifestyle to help their partner get the gender that she wants. But this just isn’t necessary as it is vaginal PH (rather than sperm PH) that really matters.  With that said, there is definitely a part that a man can play, which I’ll discuss below.

Be Willing To Wait Until The Time Is Exactly Right To Have Sex: I know that it is very exciting when you are trying to conceive. When your wife or girlfriend gives you the green light that it’s time to make a baby, then it’s normal to want to get right to work and to let the fun begin. However, there is often a very good reason to wait. When you are trying to chose your baby’s gender, you often have a much smaller conception window than you would if you didn’t care about baby gender. Because if gender doesn’t matter, you can have sex anytime in the larger fertility window. But for a girl baby, you want to have sex only before ovulation. And for a boy, you want to only have sex after it. So there will only be a few ideal days for conception.  Some days will have to be passed up. Understand this and plan accordingly.

Know That You’ll Need To Invest In Some Tools And Do Some Detective Work: The biggest mistake that I see people make when they are trying to chose their baby’s gender at home is that they will assume that they know when they are ovulating without actually testing themselves. Or, they hope that they have the right PH without really knowing for sure. Guessing is the worst thing that you can do. Make sure your girlfriend or wife has a good ovulation predictor and PH tester and, more than that, make sure she uses it regularly and uses the applicable charts for both.

Understand That The Act Of Sex Many Not Be As Spontaneous As Usual: I know that it’s very romantic and exciting to think that when you have sex, you might be creating a baby. But it’s important that you decide on the sexual position that you will use ahead of time.  When you are not trying to conceive, being spontaneous with the timing of sex and the positions that you use is fine. But when you are trying to conceive, your sexual positions can matter a great deal. For a girl, you want to use shallow penetration. And for a boy, you need deep penetration. What positions that accomplish these things vary from couple to couple.

I know this might sound staged and planned (which isn’t as much fun,) but there’s a reason for this. Deep penetration helps the weaker boy producing sperm with the shorter shelf life. And shallow penetration is better for producing girl babies because it discourages those short lived Y’s (which contain boy producing sperm.)

I know that I’ve given you a lot to keep track of.  If it helps, I’ve put together a few websites that contain cheat sheets to take a lot of the guess work out of choosing your baby’s gender.   If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/

If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/

Does It Make Sense To Continue To Have Sex After Ovulation Stops When Trying To Become Pregnant?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people who are trying to become pregnant as soon as possible. Because of this, they know that they may have to be more deliberate about the timing of their love making. Sure, you can become pregnant by just having sex whenever you feel like it and letting nature take its course, but this might take longer than if you tested for ovulation and then had sex on or around that time in a very deliberate way.

Many people aren’t sure how far to take this though. They will test for ovulation, get a positive, and then be unsure as to when or if they should stop having sex in an attempt to conceive. So, I might hear a comment like: “I understand why people chose to abstain before ovulation happens. They are trying to make sure that their sperm count is high. But what about after ovulation? Does it make sense to keep having sex a couple of days after you get the positive reading? Because at that point, ovulation would have stopped and you are not likely to become pregnant.”

This Depends Upon If There Is A Gender You’d Prefer: My answer to this question really depends upon if you care about your baby’s gender and, if so, which gender you prefer. Here’s why. Having sex prior to ovulation gives you a better chance to conceive a girl baby because the early timing isn’t friendly to the short-lived, boy-producing sperm. By conceiving this early, you are hoping that many of the boy sperm will no longer be present by the time that the fertilization takes place. However, if you are in the situation where are definitely trying for a girl baby, then it is best to stop having sex once you get the positive ovulation reading.

The reason for this is that having sex after ovulation favors a boy baby for the reasons that I described above. If the boy sperm are present at the time of conception (and they are more likely to be if you have sex after ovulation) then they have a slight advantage because they are faster to the egg. So, if you want a boy, your best bet is to wait to get that positive ovulation reading and then go ahead and have sex. From a gender standpoint, continuing to have sex after ovulation if you want a boy isn’t going to hurt your goal. But if you want a girl, this isn’t something that you’d want to do.

Concerns About The Health Of The Sperm After Ovulation: Now, some people are of the mind set that you should stop having sex a couple of days after ovulation because you are increasing your chances of having weak sperm fertilize your egg and this increases the chances of having a miscarriage or a troubled pregnancy. There are lots of differences of opinion about this. But if this is something that worries or concerns you, then there is no harm is stopping intercourse shortly after ovulation and then resuming it well afterwards, knowing that, since you have already ovulated, you are very unlikely to become pregnant until the next month anyway.

It really just depends upon your comfort level and on the baby gender that you want. If you’re attempting to get a girl baby, it would go against your goal to continue to have sex. This timing would be more favorable to a boy baby, but if you’re worried about fertilizing her egg with deteriorating sperm, then it might make sense to relax your conception attempts until you are sure ovulation is more than over.

Plus, it’s not just timing that is important.  If you truly want a specific gender, you’ll also want to consider your diet and PH and the sexual positions used.  If you’d like more specific information on how all of this fits together, I’ve put together a few websites that explain it step by step. If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com If you want a girl, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com

Does Your Ovulation Cycle Change If Your Period Starts Early?

Many women who are trying to conceive hope that they have regular and predictable menstruation and ovulation cycles.  The idea behind this is that regular menstrual cycles make ovulation easier to predict and therefore conception is theoretically easier to achieve.  If you know when you ovulate each month, then it is easier to have intercourse at the appropriate time so that you can become pregnant.  If you want a certain gender, this becomes even more important because you have a higher chance of getting a boy or girl at certain points around your ovulation.  Many people gauge ovulation by using their period as sort of a yard stick.  Many just count 14 to 15 days after their menstrual period and assume that they will ovulate around that time,  which is midway through when they bled last until the end of their cycle.  However, some of these same women might find that their period starts earlier or later than normal.  This leaves them wondering if their ovulation cycle is also going to change also.

Someone might say, “I normally have my period every 28 days or so.  This is the first month that I want to try to become pregnant, so I was going to try having sex around day 14.  However, for whatever reason, this month my period started on day 26.  So my period is actually 2 days early.   Does this mean that my ovulation is going to come 2 days early also?”

That is really up in the air for two reasons.  So many things can affect when your period comes (diet, medications, stress, hormonal fluctuations.)  The same is true of your ovulation day.  Many women do not realize that their ovulation can fluctuate because, unlike the blood that comes with your period, there aren’t as many physical signs that you can see for ovulation.  Many women are actually shocked to find that their ovulation can actually either fluctuate or not happen when they assumed that it did.  I too assumed that my ovulation happened around two weeks after my period.  But when I was unsuccessful at getting pregnant in a reasonable period of time, I started testing myself with urine and saliva ovulation testers (like these on Ebay.)  I found out that I DID NOT ovulate around day 14.  Instead, I ovulated anywhere from day 18 to day 20.  It actually fluctuated, even though my periods was mostly regular.  Since knowing when you ovulate is so key in becoming pregnant (and in choosing your baby’s gender if you care about that) then why guess?  Ovulation predictors are inexpensive.  Use one to test yourself so that you will know for sure.  Your ovulation may not have been happening on day 14 and it may or may not come two days earlier because of your early period.  Testing is the only way to be sure and it is very easy and inexpensive to test.

If you do care about whether you conceive a boy or a girl, I’ve put together some free websites to outline the steps you’d want to take. If you’d like a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy baby, see  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com.

Can Your Ovulation Day Change Each Month? What Does This Mean If You’re Trying To Chose Your Baby’s Gender?

By Sandy Dean:  I often hear from women who are trying to gauge their ovulation day in an attempt to get pregnant.  A question that I am commonly asked is some variation on “is it possible for your ovulation day to change from month to month?  If so, what does this mean if you’re trying to become pregnant?  And, what, if any, implications does this have if you are trying to chose your baby’s gender?  I will address these questions in the following article.

Your Ovulation Day Can Most Definitely Change From Month To Month For Many Reasons: The short answer is yes, your ovulation day can change dramatically from month one month to the next or it can remain relatively constant or stable.  It really does depend upon the woman in question and also upon what is going on with that same woman’s life, health, and fertility cycle. Illness, stress, or having an anovulatory cycle (which means that no ovulation occurs during a particular period of time) can all be responsible for variations in your ovulation day.

It’s a myth that most women ovulate around day 14 or mid way through a 28 day cycle (although some women do.)  Some women have shorter cycles and some women have longer cycles.  Some women ovulate earlier or later in their cycle.  And some women experience very sporadic ovulation.  All of these things can make it inadvisable to just assume that you ovulate on the same day each and every month.

You can easily test yourself using an ovulation predictor or testing.  I like the saliva kind, but the urine type is readily available also.  When I was trying to become pregnant and was charting my ovulation, I was very surprised to discover that on most months, I ovulated very late in my cycle.  While I had assumed that I must be ovulating around day 14 because of my 28 day cycle, this was not at all the case.  Most of the time, I ovulated sometime around day 20.  There were times that I ovulated as late as day 23 or as early as day 18.  Luckily, my sporadic and late ovulation did not impede my ability to become pregnant (that’s a myth also.)  But it did make planning a bit more challenging.

Many women will try to gauge ovulation around when their menstrual period occurs.  However, in some cases, it is possible to become pregnant without regular (or easily identifiable) menstrual periods.  Another misconception is that some women ovulate more than once in any given month or ovulation period.  While it is possible to release more than one egg in a month (which is what happens with twins,) those same eggs would be released at roughly the same time – making only one instance of ovulation possible. You can’t ovulate or become pregnant twice during the same ovulation period.

What Happens When Your Ovulation Day Changes From Month To Month While You’re Trying To Gage Ovulation In Order To Chose Your Baby’s Gender?: Well, a changing ovulation day from one month to the next does mean that you have to be more observant and you will need to test yourself more regularly.  However, if you are trying to chose your baby’s gender, you will need to do this anyway.  When you have intercourse is very important because you want to have sex very close to your ovulation day.  For a boy baby, you want to have sex after that ovulation day.  But for a girl baby, you want to have sex before that ovulation day.

But, when that day becomes a moving target, this becomes more challenging.  While it’s true that a woman who always ovulates on the same day each and every month is going to have an easier time planning her conception day, a woman who does not have this luxury isn’t out of luck.  If this is the case for you, then you’ll just need to get in the habit of monitoring or checking your ovulation every day with a kit.  There are very good saliva kits that will show you that ovulation is approaching.  This is important if you are trying for a girl baby.

The point is even if the date or day of your ovulation changes from month to month, as long as it is occurring and you are able to tell when or if it has happened, it is very possible for you to not only become pregnant, but to increase your chances for getting the gender that you want as well.

If you’re still confused, I’ve put together a couple of sites that walks you through this step by step.

If you want a girl baby, check out http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/
If you want a boy baby, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/

What Is The Best Time Of The Day To Conceive A Boy Baby? Is The Morning Best?

By: Sandy Dean:  I often hear from people who want for me to help them point point the best day and time to try to conceive the baby gender that they want.  They are often trying to point point the exact date and time, right down to the hour.   I recently heard from a someone who asked me, in part:  “We are trying to conceive a boy baby.  I have been told and have read that boy sperm are weaker.  And I had a friend suggest that because of this, I should try to conceive in the morning since a man is said to have a higher sperm count in the morning.  She also said that she’d heard that men have higher quality sperm after a good night’s sleep and after abstaining from sex for the hours that they are asleep.  Is all of this true?  Is having sex first thing in the morning optimal if you’re trying to conceive a boy baby?  Or does it matter at all?”  I will discuss this more in the following article.

From my research on this topic, I’ve found that the idea that sperm counts are higher in the morning is accepted by most.  Men undergoing fertility treatments or testing are often asked to give the sperm sample in the morning.  However, having a higher sperm count really does not directly affect the ratio of those same sperm.  What I mean by this is that while you may get more X and Y sperm  produced in the morning (and therefore might have a slightly better chance of getting pregnant,) the presence of more sperm chromosomes does not change the fact that you will likely have the same 50 / 50 ratio of X’s to Y’s or boy producing sperm to girl producing sperm.  Sperm count can be very important if you having fertility issues or having trouble getting pregnant, but it isn’t as important as it relates to baby gender.

As to the theory of having higher quality sperm in the morning, this is more controversial.  Most agree that abstaining from sex for 2 -3 days before trying to conceive can give you higher sperm counts and better quality sperm.  But the 6 – 8 hours of sleep that many of us get doesn’t even approach the suggested 48 -72 hour time frame.  And while you may benefit from higher quality sperm (since it’s true that Y or boy sperm tend to be more weak,) this still doesn’t address the ratio of that same sperm as I mentioned above.

And, the ratio of the sperm matters quite a lot when you are trying to choose your baby’s gender.  If you want a boy baby, your true goal is to make absolutely sure that the sperm that are trying to fertilize the egg contains much more boy producing sperm than girl producing sperm.  This alone increases your chances of getting the boy that you want.  But, you should not stop there.  Because another thing that greatly affects whether you get a boy or a girl is your vaginal PH.  An acidic one is detrimental to those Y’s that you’ve been trying so hard to encourage.  Trying to coax the Y’s into an acidic environment (where they will only weaken or wither and die) doesn’t make much sense and is counter to what you need to be doing.

So my answer to this question would be that it’s perfectly fine to have sex in the morning in an attempt to conceive a boy as long as you have also checked your PH and you know that it is alkaline rather than acidic.  In my view, you are better off having sex in the evening with an alkaline PH than having sex in the morning with an acidic one.  (Granted, most people aren’t able to drastically change their PH levels from morning to night.)

The final point I’d like to make is this.  When we discuss timing regarding conceiving a boy or a girl, we aren’t talking about the time of day.  We are talking about the time of the month – as it relates to your ovulation and fertility cycle. You want to conceive after ovulation happens because this ensures the health and vitality of those weaker boy sperm that we’ve been talking about.  To me, the timing as it relates to ovulation is much more important than timing is it relates to what the clock says first thing in the morning.   So having sex in the morning for a boy baby is fine.  But having sex in the morning with an alkaline PH and after ovulation has occurred is much better.

I know that this can be confusing.  If you’d like to read more about this process and see it explained step by step, check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com/ (for a boy baby) or http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com/ (for a girl baby)

 

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