If My First Child Was A Girl, Do I Have Weak Sperm? Do I Need To Fix It If I Want A Boy This Time?

By: Sandy Dean: Most of the folks who reach out to me in terms of baby gender are women. I guess this makes sense since it is the woman’s body that ultimately supports the pregnancy and gives birth. But, it would be a mistake to assume that men do not want to be included in the process. Men today are very involved in conception from beginning to end. And I do hear from men also. Many of them want to help the women that they love have a healthy pregnancy which produces the gender of their choice. And many of them don’t want to be the one who keeps their significant other from getting what they want. Some of them can be quite anxious about what they contribute to the process – namely their sperm. This can be especially true if their first child (or children) are not the gender that they are going for this time.

Someone might say: “my first child was a girl. I have a daughter from my first marriage – which was quite a while ago. The woman who I am married to now also has a girl. Needless to say, we would like a boy this time. I would love to have a son. But I am concerned that having a girl the first time means that my sperm is somewhat weak. And now that years have gone by, I’m concerned that it will be even weaker. I am a man over 45. Should I seek treatment for weak sperm if I want a boy?”

There are a lot of misconceptions out there that cause people to think this way. It might help to look at it like this: If you had weak sperm, you may not have a child in the first place. Weak sperm often do not successfully result in a pregnancy. And when a pregnancy occurs with weak sperm, it is said to be more likely to result in a miscarriage or other issues.

So the fact that you have a healthy child could indicate that your sperm is not as weak as you fear. Frankly, girl sperm are technically thought to be stronger than boy sperm. The X or girl sperm lives for much longer than the Y or boy sperm. It is generally thought to be much hardier. It can survive in both an alkaline and acidic environment, whereas boy sperm can be negatively affected by an acidic environment and need an alkaline environment to reach their maximum potential. Granted, boy sperm moves more quickly than girl sperm. But it dies off more quickly t00.

So if you were speculating about the strength of your sperm, it appears you are in better shape than you thought. Of course, its never a bad idea to get a check up before you attempt to conceive. But the “weak sperm theory” for fathers of girl babies doesn’t make a lot of sense to me.

As far as being concerned about your age, quite frankly age comes into play more in regards to the mother than the father. A woman’s age and her deteriorating egg is a bigger concern than the sperm. It’s more common to know a man with a younger wife that keeps having children long past middle age than a middle aged woman who keeps having children. It does happen, but it’s a bit more rare.

In my opinion, what matters more in terms of baby gender is the environment that the sperm is immersed in. Remember above when I said that girl sperm do fine in both acidic and alkaline environments? Well, you want to take advantage of this. Make sure the woman’s vaginal environment is acidic, conceive before ovulation, and use deep penetration. All of these things help you to conceive a girl. And I think these things may come into play more than the quality of your sperm.  Also, since the woman in question here also already had a girl, it makes sense to check her PH to make sure she doesn’t naturally trend toward an alkaline PH.

If you’d like instructions on how to accomplish this, I’ve put together some websites which I hope explain it pretty simply. If you want a girl baby, see http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com If you want a boy, check out  http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com

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