Is There Anything That I Can Do To Change Or Influence My Baby’s Gender or Sex After Conception?

By: Sandy Dean:  I often hear from couples who are trying to choose their baby’s gender before conception occurs.  Occasionally though, I hear from people who have already attempted to conceive and who are now hoping, after the fact, to change, tweak or influence their baby’s gender or sex.

I often hear comments like “I ovulated last week and we had sex several times.  We want a boy baby.  What can we do now to make sure that we get one?”  Another example would be: “we had sex on my ovulation day and are hoping for a girl baby.  What foods should I eat now to make sure that we get a girl?”

The problems with these scenarios is that they are all happening after conception could have already taken place.  Because once conception has happened and the mother-to-be has indeed become pregnant, your baby’s gender or sex has already been decided.  You can’t take it back or change it at that point.  If an X made it to and fertilized an egg, you’ll have a girl. If it was a Y, then there’s a boy baby or son in your future. This doesn’t change no matter how much you douche or change your diet after the fact in an attempt to control your PH because conception would have already happened.  The only way that this isn’t already set into motion is if, despite your best efforts, you were unable to get pregnant OR if your fertility window is still open this month and you’ve yet to become pregnant.

But, you may not know that until you are able to test in a few weeks.  So, what do you do in the meantime?  Well, you can concentrate on those things that you are able to control. In order to influence or chose your baby’s gender, you need to turn your attention to timing, PH, and sexual positions.  You are trying to create the perfect environment to encourage whichever sperm chromosome you need to get the gender that you want (Y for a boy and X for a girl) and to discourage (or kill off) those that you don’t want.

You do this by learning your PH and your ovulation times and adjusting accordingly.  In a perfect world, the time to do this is well before you attempt to conceive.  But, depending on the variables already present, it’s sometimes possible to address this in a shorter amount of time, which is why it’s possible for some couples who are still in the middle of a fertility cycle to influence their baby’s gender as long as conception hasn’t yet happened.

However, if you learn that you didn’t get pregnant this time around, then the good news is that next month, you’ll be able to start again with a better plan and a better understanding of how to chose your baby’s gender.  While you can’t change your baby’s gender once it’s set at conception, you can most certainly influence it if conception hasn’t happened.  And the sooner you begin addressing your PH and educating yourself on diet and timing, the greater your chance of success.

If you’re still confused about how or when to chose your baby’s gender, I’ve put together a few websites that will hopefully make the process a bit easier.  I’ve included resources, step by step instructions, and support.  If you want a boy baby check out

If you want a girl baby, check out