By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from people who want to get pregnant as soon as possible. To that end, they don’t want to waste a single possible opportunity to conceive. Many equate each day of having intercourse as just one more opportunity to successfully become pregnant.
I heard from a woman who said: “my husband and I have been married for a year and we have decided to become parents as soon as possible. We are very sexually active and have intercourse very often. This is good because I don’t want to pass up any opportunity to get pregnant. But I’m wondering if this kind of very frequent sex will influence our baby’s gender. Because I would really like to have a boy baby first. And basically, I plan to have sex every day after my period ends until I conceive. Will my plan help me to accomplish this?”
If You Have Sex Every Day In An Attempt To Conceive, Some Of Those Attempts Won’t Matter Anyway:
When you have sex can influence your baby’s gender. But quite frankly, there are only a handful of days per month when you can become pregnant. The rest wouldn’t result in a pregnant anyway because the egg isn’t yet ready to be fertilized. A woman can only become pregnant right before, during, or right after ovulation. These fertile days are going to be different for every woman. Some women ovulate a couple of weeks after the end of their period. Others have earlier or later cycles. But these fertile days are the only time when the woman’s egg can be fertilized by sperm.
Having sex before or after this fertile period can be fun and can enhance your relationship, but it isn’t going to result in a pregnancy because the egg is not going to be available for fertilization at those times.
So I don’t want to say that all of those days are going to waste because clearly the couple enjoyed this schedule. But in terms of conception, all but a handful of days just aren’t going to matter. So if you’re only keeping to this schedule in order to conceive, you really don’t need to do that. Instead, you could focus your efforts on your most fertile days. In fact, many believe that it’s a good idea to abstain from sex right before you attempt to conceive to ensure that sperm counts are high. I’m not trying to discourage you from taking every opportunity to have intercourse, but I am telling you that only certain days allow for conception.
Sexual Frequency Is Not The Only Thing That Determines Your Baby’s Gender:
As I said before, when you have sex can impact your baby’s gender. Sex right before the egg is ready is better when you’re trying for a girl. Sex after the egg is ready is better for couples who want a boy. But there are so many other things to consider also. The sexual positions you use, whether the woman has an orgasm or not, and the PH of the woman all can influence that same woman’s gender.
So it is impossible for me to predict what gender the intercourse everyday scenario would give this woman. She hadn’t mentioned her PH or any of the other variables. And, since she planned to have sex every day, she wouldn’t be discouraging either gender by trying to time her conception.
So my gut feeling is that every day intercourse really doesn’t favor one gender over another since you have no way of knowing which attempt of conception will be successful. Since this couple wanted a boy, my suggestion would be to begin testing for ovulation and PH after her period ended. She needed to make sure that she had an alkaline PH because this favors boys. She also might consider abstaining from sex as her ovulation approached. Once she got a positive reading indicating that ovulation had happened and her egg was ready to be fertilized, then that would be the optimal time to start having sex.
If you need help coming up with the best tactics for your situation, I’ve put together a few websites that might be useful. There’s more detailed explanations that might make this process a little easier. You can check out http://conceive-a-boy-baby.com or http://conceive-a-girl-baby.com depending on which is applicable to you.