Does Your Sperm Count Have To Be High To Have A Boy Baby?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from couples who want to have a boy baby or a son. However, some are afraid that one of them doesn’t have what it takes in order to make this happen. As far as the man or father to be is concerned, some worry that their sperm count isn’t high enough or isn’t optimal.

I might hear a comment like: “I am pretty sure that my husband has a low sperm count. I believe this for a couple of reasons. First of all, we are having some trouble getting pregnant. We have been trying for eight months and I am still not pregnant. Second, his brother and wife had to do fertility treatments in order to become pregnant because his brother had low sperm count. So I am afraid that this condition has run in my husband’s family and now his sperm count is low. We are wanting a boy baby. But I have read that a high sperm count makes this more likely and that a low sperm count makes girls more likely. Is this true? And, if so, what can I do about it?”

Well before I get to the low / high sperm count issue, I do want to stress that it didn’t appear to be certain that this was going to be an issue. She was assuming that her husband had the same condition as his brother, but her husband had not been tested. So this was only an assumption that could have been wrong. And, eight months is not an alarmingly long time not to become pregnant. Most specialists don’t even encourage you to get a check up until you have been trying for at least a year or more without success.

With all of this said, for the sake of argument, let’s say that she was right and that her husband indeed had low sperm count. I honestly didn’t think that this would make much of a difference in terms of baby gender. But I did research this to be sure. And although I could find references to studies which supposedly indicated a five percent bias toward boy babies for men with higher sperm counts, I didn’t find the studies themselves.

Supposing that the studies were true, a five percent bias is not all that statistically significant. Typically, the odds for males and females are equal because men produce equal amounts of boy and girl producing sperm. So, even assuming that this is true, it’s taking the odds from 50 / 50 to 55 / 45. Sure, the odds are slightly better, but in this scenario, plenty of daughters would be born to men with high sperm count and plenty of sons would be born to men with low sperm count.

Not only this, but there are so many other variables that can dramatically influence baby gender. I believe that reasoning behind this “high sperm count theory” is that because boy sperm are faster, if you have then in higher numbers, the odds are better that they will win the race to the egg. But frankly, if you have a higher sperm count, you are still going to have the same ratio of X to Y (or girl producing to boy producing sperm.) So if the amount of boy sperm were to increase because of a high sperm count. So would the girl sperm. To me, it would almost cancel each other out.

Granted, having a high sperm count gives you a better chance of becoming pregnant. You have more sperm which can potentially fertilize the egg, so you have more of a chance of success. But, this would be true no matter which gender you want.

In my opinion, if you want a boy, you are better off making sure that the woman is alkaline, making sure that you are having sex after ovulation, and using deep penetration when you have sex. Because I believe that the combination of these three variables could potentially raise your odds for a boy baby much higher than 55%. And frankly, these variables are much easier to manipulate and control whereas sperm count is not.

If you’d like more information to get the gender of your choice, I’ve put together a few websites to break this process down. If you want a boy baby, check out If you want a girl, see

Does High Sperm Count Mean You’ll Have A Girl Or Boy Baby?

By: Sandy Dean: I sometimes hear from couples who have been trying to become pregnant for long enough that they have had the man’s sperm count tested to make sure that there are no problems. Some then contact me and wonder whether, if that this testing indicated a high sperm count, does this make them more likely to conceive a girl or a boy baby?

The answer to this isn’t all that clear and discussions on this can get heated and controversial. There have been some studies that have tested the ratio of X (girl producing) to Y (boy producing) sperm in a variety of men (including those who have both girls and boys running in their families and including those with high sperm counts) and most of these studies have continued to find a ratio of around 50 / 50. Of course, this is pretty close to what we find is hospitals all over the world. Mother nature has a way of balancing out males to female birth rates.

However, there are old wives tales as well as stray studies which indicate that a high sperm count makes you more likely to conceive a boy baby. Many people continue to believe this. I would take this with a grain of salt though and I will tell you why. If you break natural gender selection down to it’s most simple form, away from all the controversy and disagreement, every one can agree that if a Y sperm chromosome fertilizes the egg, the resulting birth is a boy. If it is an X instead, then that results in a girl.

There’s also no disagreement on the fact that literally millions of sperm – both X and Y – are taking part in a battle to fertilize the egg. But usually, only one sperm chromosome makes it, (unless you are those rare folks who end up with twins or multiples.) There is very little if anything that you can do to control this. But while you can not really control the ratio of Y to X sperm as it leaves the man and enters the woman’s reproductive tract, what you can try to control is the X to Y ratio once these get closer to the egg. You do this by tweaking the woman’s PH and using the timing of your conception to your best advantage.

If you want a girl baby, then you want to destroy or discourage as many Y’s as possible. And if you want a boy, then the X’s are in your cross hairs. There are adjustments that you can make to your diet or to your vaginal environment (via douching) that can help you to accomplish this. You can also test to see when ovulation is most likely to happen and plan to conceive accordingly (earlier for a girl and later for a boy is most effective.)

But what does this mean if you think you already have more Y’s or a better chance for a boy if your partner or man’s sperm count is high? Well, without continuing to argue the validity of this point, that depends upon whether you want a girl or boy baby. If you want a boy or son, then this arguably makes your job easier. However, you have to know that there will still be some X’s to contend with even if you believe the theory that they are in lesser numbers. To discourage those, you can make your PH alkaline to help out the Y sperm.

Now if you believe this theory and you want a girl, all is not lost. There are still going to be X’s racing for the egg. Your goal would be to make the most of what you have by making your vaginal PH acidic to destroy or discourage those Y’s that you believe or in greater numbers. I really don’t buy the theory that a high sperm count favors boys. However, even if this is true, there is more to gender selection than those ratios. There are always both Y’s and X’s racing for the egg. The real question is which is going to make it first and how you can make life impossible or more difficult for those that you don’t want to win.

If this is still confusing, I’ve put together a couple of web sites that walk you through the process, step by step. If you want a girl baby, check out

If you want a boy baby, check out